• lapis [fae/faer, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      while I don’t think trans women should need to voice train, this is actually a just-for-fun transition goal of mine! did you have a professional voice coach, or are there some resources you used?

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        You know TransVoiceLessons on youtube, I tried desperately to overcome my autism and understand which parts of my throat she is talking about. I think I have the basic idea of it down at least, I can make funny vocalisations c:

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          TransVoiceLessons

          she’s so cool, I need to actually train instead of just watching her videos some day.

          I tried desperately to overcome my autism and understand which parts of my throat she is talking about.

          oh my god this is such a mood. I always have either direct control of a body part and no ability to use muscle memory, or I am incapable of finding the specific muscles I’m supposed to be using because that function of my body is so autonomous.

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      Almost of of my grill cis friends and grill trans friends and a couple of my boi fronds sound androgynous and I’m BOUT IT

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    yeah… when I was more actively doing it I started noticing how many people put on their voices in dah to day lives. being able to just speak as yourself is great actually. everything is performative bullshit.

    seriously I started transitioning seven years ago, I look, dress, and sound the same, and as long as i’m at home with my partner I am extremely comfy with myself. it’s other people who can’t get it.

    I tricked myself into doing voice training mostly by teaching myself to sing, it is funny to be able to hit really high notes at least, what a party trick, if I went to parties.

    I do detest my speaking voice though, internationalised bullshit, oh yeah. the voice I use when I speak to dogs is alright though.

    sorry i’m a real emotional wordy bug today, weird week, weird life.

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    I’m a cis man :grillman: and I trained my voice just because I didn’t like it and now everyone constantly tells me how great my voice is

    So ladies, the lesson here is you just need to develop a good deep baritone and people will love you

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    It would be cool to have the ability to from a high pitched “girly” voice to a very deep “manly” voice and fuck around with people but I’m still too lazy to train trans-sad

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    Not even just from the perspective that voice training is hard, but some trans people don’t even have that much vocal dysphoria and don’t want to change their voice that much anyway. Loving and finding comfort in your voice the way it is would be equally as valid as despising it and wanting to change it, and I say this as someone who definitely wants to change it.

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    on the one hand, I don’t want to voice train because I’m morally opposed to the need to voice train, societally.

    on the other, girl voices pretty.

    on my secret third hand, it’s kinda a roller coaster when I get gendered correctly (or at least misgendered as a woman rather than a man, which is its whole own thing), then open my mouth to respond to someone, and they fall over themselves trying to correct what they thought was misgendering earlier.

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      no, not at all! that definitely wasn’t my intention here. i’m voice training right now, and i just hate how if i fail at it i will without fail be misgendered by someone no matter how much effort i put into the rest of my presentation. voice training isn’t bad, but the pressure by cis people to do it is

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      I don’t think anyone should feel weird for wanting or pursuing a different voice. Whether you’re trans or cis. It’s totally valid. It just sucks when society expects trans people to change their voice in order to be more accepted as their gender, and when trans people as a result of that feel pressured to do so.

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    yea I can do a pretty good feminine voice after years of slacking on voice training, but since it’s not my default voice it actually takes effort and it feels so forced to me. It literally makes me feel like being a voice actor. But the only reason I do it is so I don’t have to instantly out myself as trans to everyone around me when speaking in public. I hate it so much.

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    It’s rough. It takes a lot of time and effort to get from A to B. It took me about 7 or 8 months to get from male to female voice. Granted this is through me simply never using my old voice ever again after learning the most basic techniques of voice training. Kinda forced the matter.

    Also, considering the overall opinion here, I actually feel shamed on occasion for actually doing it and I really hate it.

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      that definitely wasn’t my intention here. i’m voice training right now, and i just hate how if i fail at it i will without fail be misgendered by someone no matter how much effort i put into the rest of my presentation. voice training isn’t bad, but the pressure by cis people to do it is

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      hrt can make your mfing hands smaller

      Can confirm, I didn’t keep detailed records or anything but I did have a ring that went from being a snug fit on my ring finger to being loose on my thumb, and my hands noticeably look different.

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      feet too! all my shoes are too big now, thanks HRT.

      on the upside, I can actually find women’s shoes and heels in my size now, I guess (I’ve found it a lot easier to find women’s 13 than women’s 14, no clue why that’s the cutoff though).