“After careful consideration of your proposal, I will not be attending lunch with you last Friday.”
This is one of several reasons I eventually ditched Facebook… People would text me a bunch of bullshit drama on FB messenger while I was at work and couldn’t stop to look at it, then start sending me more messages asking why I wasn’t responding lol
I would hate to be a teenager in this day and age. The amount of drama that gets started over shit like you’re talking about is insane.
As shitty as Facebook is, Snapchat takes that and dials it up to an 11.
I have it on good info from my 16 year old that it is completely unacceptable to:
- Leave a snap (message) unopened for any major length of time. How long is highly subjective.
- Open a snap and not respond.
- Group chat.
- Send a normal message that doesn’t include a cringy photo of half your face.
Kids actually get upset over this stuff.
I’m just like, “I have a phone number. You can call or text it. If I feel like talking to you I’ll answer. If that’s a problem for you, too damn bad.”
Social media was a mistake and a phone camera is the worst invention of our lifetimes.
We destroyed society for absolute shit.
I disagree. Advertising with a tracking component was the worst invention of our lifetimes. Or, if you are really old, possibly advertising in general. It provides 90% of the incentive for companies to want all your information in the first place.
It was inevitable tho , and don’t get this twisted, I’m anti social media. The second internet became public and accessible to literally everyone social media was bound to happen. We are naturally social creatures and want to interact with others. The issue is people are farmed like fucking livestock now. Companies know what they are doing by fostering and facilitating this current form of behavior manipulation.
Phone cameras are actually pretty cool imo. Social media was def a mistake tho.
What the hell is in those e-mails that requires 2 days of pondering?
Requests for available meeting times. I figure if I drag my feet on scheduling a meeting someone urgently wants to have they’ll eventually just email the fucking questions and save us both 90 minutes of pointless bullshit.
I actually made an online meeting request process with a minimum 2-week turnaround just to make scheduling meetings with my department annoying. I only have so much time, and if I honored all requests I’d be spending 60+ hours a week in meetings and none actually doing my job.
In a project manager. Meetings are my job. If I made my customers wait two weeks to schedule a meeting, I’d be fired. Two weeks to hold it? Maybe. Two weeks to schedule? No.
Could you perhaps cut down on the number of meetings you have? I’ve found that 99% of meetings I get invited to could usually have been an email or a slack message, but then people just want to waste time talking to make it look like they’re doing stuff instead of actually just doing stuff.
So basically a business week to respond to everything
edit: stop replying to this to tell me I’m a monster for expecting email to be a thing. I honestly don’t care, and all you’re doing is telling me you have a weird gen z hangup about email, and that you are a problem at your workplace and that you frustrate your coworkers.
Right!? What kind of email correspondence is this person engaged in that takes them 4 days to process and reply to?
I’d be interested to see their timeline for other forms of communication.
That’s what I am thinking. There are some things that make sense to take while but it seems weird to me to ask for a semi-blank check like this. I have coworkers that are awful at responding (weeks oftentimes) and it’s super frustrating.
If you need a fast response, don’t use email. In general, here’s my order of urgency and expected time to resolution:
- physically meet w/ them or phone call - <1 hr
- IM/SMS/etc - <1 day
- meeting invitation - by the meeting time
- physical mail/note on their desk - 1-2 weeks
- email - <1 month, but probably <1 week
- create a “ticket” - ??
I try to go as far down that list as possible, but no further.
If you’re getting frustrated, it means you’re probably going too far down that list.
This is wild to me, to be honest.
One of the great things about email, versus IMs and other more real-time forms of communication is that it gives the recipient the ability to address it in a more offline manner. In that way, I’ve always viewed it as more respective of people’s schedule and work habits, since it’s naturally asynchronous.
So I’m having trouble following the idea that people would view it as intrusive and obnoxious while also saying that the only way to get a reply from them the same week is to get in front of them with a real-time communication like a call or physical visit–way more disruptive to concentration.
I check my email like I check my mail, once every couple of days - once a week. We have faster modes of communication and (especially in a work setting) if something is time sensitive you can give me a call or text/IM.
