if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have
same goes double for the word guy.
im one of these bros who calls everyone dude… everyone except the couple transfem people who ask me not to… it costs me literally nothing and avoids hurting people I care about. Some people have no convictions apart from refusing the be normal decent people.
As someone that does the same, it really is that easy.