• FZDC@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    You’re right that a big part of it is social/cultural expectations of the people around those parents. If Bluey is normalizing what it means to be an involved dad for millennial dads of kids born between 2015 and 2025, we’ll start to see critical mass of that kind of expectation.

    In my social circle (millennial professionals living in big cities in the East Coast), it seems the knowing how to cook well and owning a dog are really important for the dating scene, and seem to set a certain baseline expectation for what unpaid household work one is able to do alone or with a significant other. And, if we’re getting married later than previous generations (marrying between 30-35 to people we knew for 2+ years), and engaged in active family planning (that is, birth control), there’s an opportunity to show during the dating years how career and household responsibilities interplay, before the couples actually choose to have children together.

    And it feeds back onto itself. I personally don’t really run into the issue of diaper changing stations in women restrooms but not men’s restrooms (where I live in DC, most restrooms are single stall unisex, with one or two diaper changing stations that are also in unisex stalls). There’s a pretty healthy representation of other solo dads at the playground, or at daycare pickup/dropoff, etc. It’s not 50/50, but it’s closer than in some other cities I’ve lived in, or the stories I hear from family and friends elsewhere.

    So we’re moving there. Our generation just has to continue to model the behavior for those that come after (especially our own children).

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      1 year ago

      If Bluey is normalizing what it means to be an involved dad for millennial dads of kids born between 2015 and 2025

      As an Australian, I’m simultaneously glad to see Bluey helping people around the world but also a bit horrified to hear stories where people call it progressive. Bluey is an accurate representation of a normal household (and father) here.

      where I live in DC, most restrooms are single stall unisex, with one or two diaper changing stations that are also in unisex stalls

      We generally have a dedicated “parents room” here. The size varies but there will be changing stations, quiet places to sit, a small playground, a small kitchen with filtered drinking water/microwave/sink/etc and small toilets and hand basins for kids that are toilet trained but not tall enough to use a full size toilet and basin. They have facilities for adults too, so nobody needs to bring their three year old into the regular restroom. The parents room is also generally cleaned a lot more frequently and thoroughly - acknowledging that kids will touch everything (not just by cleaners either, there are disposable wipes and towels provided so parents can keep it clean.

      Things are definitely not perfect in Australia - but better than most of the world and the kind of problems mentioned in this thread tend to be limited to encounters with elderly people or foreigners.