It’s not whataboutism, it’s explanation by anecdote. You have no ability to meet my questions and no meaningful rebuttal. You’ve danced around drunk driving enough to make it pretty clear you don’t see that obvious example as wrong, so how could you handle a more nuanced situation?

I don’t need to waste any more time with someone who thinks the above behaviors are acceptable, regardless of reasoning for arriving there.

Seeking to live in a society where others make certain efforts to be good to each other is not a desire to be controlled.