I’m looking for some good reading on how to, eventually, best help be a step parent to my partner’s children and NEARLY ALL books are geared toward the woman’s perspective as though men don’t want to be a strong teacher and develop these kids into healthy adults. Ugh!
Thanks for listening to my rant.
Do a Google search for books for stepdads instead of books for stepmoms maybe you’ll have better search results because I just did it and I found a bunch of books.
We had a baby recently and I tried to read a few books geared towards men to be better prepared.
The bar for men is very, very low. It’s a tripping hazard.
The guidance in all of them was a pathetic mix of “have you tried basic empathy?” and idiotic sports metaphors. It was baffling. Are most men actually like stupid sitcom dads from the 90s?
Yes! I got pregnant and the online advice for me was a million pages long of avoid this, do that, research everything, do 20 hours a day worth of stuff, but get enough sleep! Don’t stress or it will hurt the baby!
The online advice for him literally introduced empathy as if it were a concept he had never heard of before. The bar is below the floor. We just had him research as if he was going to be a mom.
The vast majority of men would never touch a self-help book. It’s simply a matter of sizing the potential audience. Writing a book that ends up unread makes no sense.
Hence the rant. It’s sad that men don’t seek to better themselves at the same rate.
Kudos to OP for looking to be the best step-dad he can be!