This community is always a trip because every time I’m scrolling through all and I see a post like this that is completely relatable there is a 50/50 chance it is from this community. I didn’t think I was autistic but y’all are really making me start to wonder.
YMMV but if you’re doing the thing where you think along the lines of “sure I’m weird but I get along fine” (borderline offensive paraphrase, sorry), you could be similar to myself in being subclinicly autistic. Just means you’re neurodivergent but not to an extent where you get any medical or legal benefit.
I’ve found that, after my therapist quasi-diagnosed me as such, I have an easier time being kind to myself and realizing what is bothering me and why.
Just food for thought.
Well just out of curiosity I took an AQ test and got a 20. While of course that doesn’t mean much on it’s own I should probably talk to my therapist about being properly tested. Being diagnosed wouldn’t really change anything but it certainly would explain some things.
That’s what I thought too, but it hit me harder than I expected. You might be surprised. Good luck.
So, your original comment sounded very relatable and I never heard about an AQ test before. Just took one and got 34. Well…
(For the unfamiliar: 34 out of 50, over 32 means you should probably go and get a real diagnosis.)
Just got a 30, which apparently is in the 26-32 range for Asperger’s. My wife keeps telling me she thinks I have it, looks like she might be right, lol.
I’ve found that, after my therapist quasi-diagnosed me as such, I have an easier time being kind to myself and realizing what is bothering me and why.
My psych and I make jokes, but it’s not something we spend time on. It does make it easier once you realize - with anxiety and depression I’ve spent decades hating myself for it.
Wait, you can get benefits? From my experience, you only get treated, like you had down syndrome and denied state provided licenses.
At least over here there are some benefits.
- Additional help at school
- Counselling/Therapy (currently completely overwhelmed, unfortunately).
- Legal requirement for “reasonable accommodation” at work.
- Knowing what the FUCK is wrong with your brain.
That last one was the biggie for me and you still get to have it if you’re subclinical.
That one is also the main reason I got diagnosed as an adult.
Well, I haven’t had as much luck as you.
School:
In primary school, I was the retarded kid for some teachers and in high school, when they can’t question my intelligence, as I am universally known as smart, they accuse me of schizophrenia and disrespect. I was forced to have weekly appointments at a school psychologist for breaking some minor school rules.
General life:
I had to complete a psychological test for my driver’s license, where I was treated, like I was stupid (and I still didn’t get my results after around a month).
I feel compelled to ask, but don’t demand an answer: what rules did you break?
I presume you’re outside the US? When I got my license in the US (about 15 years ago now), you needed a pulse and a basic understanding of signage for the written part. One of the few things the US gets right is the ADA, which is why we have things like ‘reasonable accommodations’.
Well, after thinking about it, it wasn’t so minor. I stabbed someone’s hand with a pencil after he was annoying me (I asked him to stop nicely many times). He didn’t have any proof, they just believed him as I was the autistic one. In Slovenia and probably most of EU, you have to have a medical examination for a state provided licenses and usually also work. If they don’t permit me my driver’s license, I’ll just move outside of this shithole country (quoting Borat) and live a normal life somewhere else.
beautifully drawn!
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I also really love Deep Rock Galactic because the “emotes” and recorded voice files are more than enough to communicate in game. No real need for voice chat or typing.
Yay! Teamwork!
“PVP? That sounds like something for pointy eared leaf lovers!”
DID I HEAR A ROCK AND STONE?!
That’s it lads, ROCK AND STONE!!
TO THE BONE!!
There are also in-person Autism social clubs all over the place. See if there is one in your area if you want people to hang out with physically too.
I helped start a makerspace (aka a Hackspace or hacker space). Our membership seems to be at least 50% neurodiverse.
Just hanging out with other neuro-spicy people can get awkward. Doing so, with something to do tends to be a lot more natural.
I love the term Neuro-spicy! I’m stealing that one.
It’s hard to get people to understand that I like doing some things alone so I can slowly dig into the process and optimize it.
