• DudePluto@lemm.ee
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    7 months ago

    A mere 20 years ago we could sit in mixed company laughing and groaning during an impromptu “everyone’s best and worst pickup line” contest, that levity among friends. Levity is serious business re-learn it.

    You still can. The discourse is because a large chunk of the male population doesn’t understand how to do that without being creeps. Don’t be a creep and women will like being around you

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      7 months ago

      How large is the chunk that doesn’t dare do it because they think their behaviour would be considered creepy, even though they’d do perfectly fine? Because that was the case I was replying to, not the overall situation.

      If gals want to keep up the overall “don’t talk to me if I haven’t talked to you first” approach, fine, but then y’all gotta start being more proactive with your own pick up skills. And starting pick up line contests yourselves in suitable company, instead of letting decent guys sit there, coming to believe any muscle they move in your presence to be an offence. Thinking they can’t show themselves they start to hide themselves, now they can’t be read properly any more, their intentions might very well still be pure but because something is hidden well anything could be hidden there, and now you’ve got an actual creep on your hands.