This is the biggest reason I left reddit. It made me never want to post anything, and reading the comments section most of the time just made me angry. People are much nicer here!

Have you had similar experiences with Reddit…

Countless. It’s one of the reasons that I am devoted to Beehaw.

I agree with OP and the general consensus of the comments here.

This may sound corny, but all I really wanted to add to this thread is…thank you. Thank all of you for being so kind. So human.

I really hope the positivity of this platform continues on, as it’s truly been a bright spot slipping through the dark clouds of the internet.

Rock on, Beehaw. Rock. On.

The hostility was exhausting and constant, but equally so was knowing I would have to bake in a bunch of qualifiers into my post to try to head off common bad faith arguments at the pass. When you’re doing this for the very real problems you’re having just existing in society as a minority, it’s absolutely soul-sucking. Even if you know it’s by design, you’re still just one person dealing with a lot of weighty garbage in real life who then has to deal with redditor JAQing/name calling/strawmanning the minute you try to talk about it to try to offset even a fraction of the emotional burden.

I am pretty happy to watch reddit die. Less happy when I think about how this can further distill the abuse within a lot of current discourse.

Come to think of it, I too, notice the difference. How nicer people are on here.

Here’s another thing that I don’t miss about Reddit. I am glad there is no downvotes on Beehaw, there is not this constant passive aggressive downvoting which was really frustrating.

But yeah, I guess that what I don’t miss the most is it’s comment section. I don’t miss the constant hostility for no reason. I don’t miss the whole comments section being filled with masturbating monkeys every time there is a women in a picture. And I know, it sounds like I’m a fucking white knight or whatever, but that used to bother the hell out of me!

Every time, EVERY TIME you would see a photo with a woman as the subject of the photo, the common section would be unbearable to read…

Same thing, I also don’t miss seeing a video or a picture with a black person on it and seeing that the comments section has been locked. And I don’t even have to wonder why, I know why.

I don’t miss the frets that are political in nature, talking about things like racism or queerphobia, going on there, and just seeing a locked comment section, with giant, sprawling discussions, of just deleted comments after deleted comments, with entire threads being nuked.

…I guess I just don’t miss the bigotry and people being all around assholes.

You know, I’m writing this, and I’m just realizing how horrendous that place was, actually.

I guess, overtime, you end up getting used to it, or maybe, just getting numb to it. And you should never get number to seeing stuff like that, that’s not normal. Bigotry, people acting like assholes, it should be outrageous, it shouldn’t be just something that you’re so used to seeing that it makes your roll your eyes. But I know that here, when I see a bad take, when I see someone behaving like an ass, it sticks out, it jumps out of me. I see it immediately, and I get frustrated with it. Because I am not numbed to it, because it isn’t common here.

Maybe I am now in a bubble, in a safe space. Maybe. Screw everything else, I’m not leaving. I like it here. Real life is already stressful enough for me to be annoyed by people on Reddit.

I thought I would miss it. I don’t. I haven’t returned ever since I made an account here. The only times when I check read it, is if I’m looking for something, like, I have an issue with a game, something like that, I look it up on my search engine, and often, I would get linked to a Reddit thread about it. But that’s it. Other than this, I don’t go on it, I don’t interact with it, I don’t log into it. And I don’t miss it.

This was like leaving social media for me, when I left Twitter and all of that, good fucking riddance.

yeah, it’s a lot nicer here

I can relate to that a lot. I usually also comment on niche subs with a help question. Not sure what it is about reddit that makes the common redditor act like a hostile person with a superiority complex. It’s very irritating, like they do the opposite of touching grass 24/7 and hate you for posting.

Beehaw and Lemmy are much smaller so that’s also why the quality of the people here is just overall better. the moderation style in beehaw also helps. It also helps me feel like I can freely comment the way I want to.

Honestly, that’s what generally happens the more public an online space becomes. The loudest most obnoxious people ruin it. Once Reddit wasn’t a bastion of niche hobbyists and power users, and open to everyone, the chances of Dunning Krueger showing up grows exponentially. Also just assholes in general.

It’s also sort of built into the system anyway. The mods are cronies to the despot. Many are good, but its not the good ones that do the damage and piss people off. They run their subs like petty little tyrants, and it rubs off on people.

i have quit reddit multiple times over such behavior. everyone is looking to become the most upvoted dunk on there

It got so bad on reddit that I would hope my posts wouldn’t hit the front page of a sub, and often when I’d comment I’d immediately disable inbox replies.

Someone in another community linked an archived reddit thread, and the unnecessary hostility and toxicity were readily apparent since I hadn’t been on reddit for a while.

What’s scary is how I started to feel numb to it and even feel like I started to become like that myself.

I agree with you, I gradually became more lurky because the interaction with others was terrible. I hated talking to people.

So far on beehaw it’s been overwhelmingly positive, and my dumb questions didn’t receive snarky remarks or vitriol. Sometimes, people just want to ask a question and create a discussion. That’s mostly me, I’m sure I can find a lot of answers myself, and usually do, but every so often I just want to talk about something with someone, so I’ll repeat a question which was asked 2 years ago.

Besides, asking the same question again could lead to a different discussion anyway. It’s terrible to tell people to “just Google it”. Yeah, they could do that, but its such a negative response. Could easily just say “Hey I found this link on Google, here you go. Try looking into x, y or z and include that in your future searches, let me know if you have any other questions”

I got told I was “larping” on Reddit once about operating a hiking group. A huge number of my posts were about hiking, and I think I even named my group a few times.

Also continuously got told by Americans that our anti gun laws weren’t actually working. In fact, anything suggesting they did was a instant downvote

So happy I deleted my primary account a few months ago. Much better environment here

I’ve been struck by the same thoughts lately as well, coming from Reddit where I expect hostile attitudes and at times even contributed to it, Lemmy (and to a greater extent, beehaw) is still pretty quiet as far as trolls/haters go, there’s active moderation keeping them at bay when they do show up, and the bulk majority of contributors are friendly and enthusiastic about their topics (rather than the toxic circlejerks of Reddit past.)

I still use Reddit occasionally. A little bit to scratch my news/social topic itch and for the few communities that haven’t migrated here yet.

I live in a poorish country and I’m not flush with cash either currently not being employed except some volunteering. I wanted to build a network server for a charity who were struggling with their internal services.

Over a period of six months I cobble together enough to buy a second hand mini PC. I couldn’t get a network card similarly because of shortages, so someone buys one from ebay US and brings it after a few months.

For some mystery reason, the card refuses to work with the PC. It’s detected but as soon as I push some traffic it results in a kernel panic. I spend a month looking at similar problems online and trying out different solutions. With no dice, I post on Reddit.

On the my first two tires, I get no replies and no one notices it because it doesn’t get any upvotes. Then I try another two subreddits and people just say that CPU/NIC sucks, just get another one.

This whole thing pretty much put me off from posting on Reddit after that.

It’s Twitter, but in longer form.

Everyone’s just there to be outraged at something. The whole internet is outrage-bait.