• KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    5 months ago

    I don’t think it’s about caring.

    When you slowly boil the frog in water, does it care that it’s being boiled? Yes. Does it notice? Not initially no, it becomes apparent later on when it impacts it’s life.

    I was stuck inside for almost 2 years alone, I didn’t have friends and I felt shit about myself altogether. I didn’t look in the mirror and I didn’t notice.

    Until a friend sent me a photo of me at the park and I realised how bad it was and that I felt disgusting.

    Did I care? Yeah, but I didn’t notice the gradual change. I can identify the behavior and I can say the average time span, but I have no idea when it actually started or when it started to plateau.

    I don’t have a scale, I don’t weigh myself, I actively avoid mirrors to stop me from hating myself even more…

    I also think you’re taking the saying too literally.

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      5 months ago

      Thats a bad analogy, the frog constantly wants to live, and has essentially been tricked.

      In your case, you tricked yourself by not looking at yourself, despite the fact that you do in fact care how you look.

      I’d say that’s more of a conscious decision to not deal with something than akin to being boiled alive.

      In my opinion, ignoring something is an action, not inaction.

      • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        5 months ago

        What does that even matter?

        Maybe I don’t want to be alive? Maybe being alive was something that was done to me? Maybe being born into the family and body I have is the trick?

        Like, you sound so pedantic, bitter and quite angry about something people say to express something happening slowly without necessarily noticing how bad it is until something brings it to their attention.

        Believe it or not, and this may be hard to grasp, but not everyone experiences life the way you do in your head.

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          5 months ago

          I’m not saying everyone experiences things the same way. Everyone has their own perspective, and most importantly, is capable of changing it. I think the perspective displayed in the “life rushing by” memes, is negative and toxic. I think if that meme resonates with you, then it might be helpful to think about why.

          If you didnt want to discuss your perspective compared to mine, I’m not sure why we are talking.

          If you really wanted to know my feeling when I saw this post, since you made quite a few guesses, I felt hopeful that I could share my perspective with others and learn more about theres, using the meme as a vehicle.

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            5 months ago

            But you’re not discussing it, your projecting your world views on others and making accusations and assumptions about me. Which I don’t really appreciate. You neither know me, how my mind works or what I’ve gone through. It also seems like you may or may not understand how mental health issues can affect cognition or perception.

            So with that, I’ll end the conversation there.