How do you feel about Pride? Plan on going to any events?

  • lady_scarecrow (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    30 days ago

    Now it’s more important than ever to go. We need to show the transphobes and homophobes out there that we LGBTQ+ people and our allies are far more numerous than they think.

  • 1ostA5tro6yne@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    30 days ago

    it’s a crapshoot, when i went to my local pride it was half cops carrying thin blue line flags and zero people gendered me right even after being corrected, and i only felt more alienated the longer i was there and the more people i talked to.

    the gay bar i ended up in was even worse for trans acceptance, literally the first thing said to me as i walked in the door was “you’re actually a guy right?” (i was dressed up as fem as i could manage with my time budget and assets), and i spent most of my time alternating between trying to escape a badly cross-dressed chaser and being shouted at by some drag queen that took offense to me walking past her so many times in my bids to escape that creep.

    i honestly feel lucky for not winding up getting SA’d or worse, i’ve never been made to feel so uncomfortable before or since. all in all, it was pretty emotionally damaging, especially as i was only recently out and had just lost my entire social circle about it. i wish people wouldn’t talk up “the community” to newly out folks because “the community” doesn’t fucking exist, your local cliques do. and some of those are going to be filled with awful people, because being gay doesn’t make you a decent human.

    i’m not saying every city’s pride is going to be like this, but if you’re not familiar with the local scene definitely go with friends (actual friends, not some random gay person who says they want to be your friend so they can borrow a bunch of money and then ditch you at some random gay club and then block your number when you’re not happy about it, the way i did), and bring a weapon.

    tl;dr easily among the worst experiences of my life, and i’m never going again

    • -Emma-@fedia.ioOP
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      30 days ago

      i’ve never gone, and this encapsulates some of my many fears and doubts.

      i’m really sorry that happened to you, and i hope that you have real friends in your life now that are there for you ❤️

      • 1ostA5tro6yne@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        30 days ago

        you know, the worst part of that experience was all the absolute gaslighting i received anytime i tried to discuss my experience, both online and in meatspace. lemmy is like the only place i’ve found where i can be real about my experiences with the gay scene in that city and not get shouted down or accused of concern trolling.

        anyway i got the hell out of that entire state a couple years ago and now keep to myself waaaay out in the middle of nowhere with my wife and cats and spend my time making silly computer games. life’s good without that clique-centric social performance crap wearing on me.

        like i said, bring a good friend that you know well, and a weapon as your local laws and rules at the event permit. a lot of my situation stemmed from having neither.

        • -Emma-@fedia.ioOP
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          30 days ago

          at this point, i’m not planning to go. i have no one to go with me, don’t own or feel comfortable having a weapon, and live in a generally unsafe place (Louisiana). i’ll attempt to go to a support group next month. right now i have no one.

  • 🇰 🔵 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.net
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    30 days ago

    Pride is one of the seven deadly sins.

    So naturally I love it.

    I used to go to the Pride parade and festival in San Francisco every year after high school. I only stopped due to scheduling and money. Easy to get there with just some gas money; but I hate not being able to buy anything from the vendors.

      • lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        30 days ago

        Trans sloth is where you procrastinate on all the tasks that go into “fully” transitioning.

        Like this one company that requires me to submit some legal paperwork before they let me update my name on their dinky little web portal. I could, but… Ehhhh… Do I really care that much right now…?

        Or that massive pile of boy-clothes I had in the corner of my room for months because I kept putting off donating them.