• argh_another_username@lemmy.ca
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    2 months ago

    Man, I saw a guy once getting stood up and I was really sad. The guy was seated, waited, asked for something small, waited more, changed tables to free space for a larger group and then paid and left. I mean, everyone here probably went on dates that got nowhere. Finish the meal, shake hands and leave separate. It’s part of life. But the golden rule is never go into the restaurant alone. Always meet outside l, somewhere else.

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      2 months ago

      Spoken like someone who isn’t afraid of potential dates. Lol.

      No way I’m meeting privately on a first date with someone I don’t know. I’d rather be stood up in the restaurant.

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          2 months ago

          coffee instead of a free dinner? put that on your profile and see how many hits you get. I’ll give you a hint, it starts with a decimal place.

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            2 months ago

            If you’re not getting a date, I guarantee you, the word “coffee” in your profile is not the reason.

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            2 months ago

            Such a sad state of dating. You think it would start with interest in the person rather than interest in a meal.

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            2 months ago

            I’m no golden rule and I assure you, coffee date is on my profile. 1-2 dates a week. I’ve also had coffee… then some lunch… then dinner. All about connecting and not being a dumbass. No one wants to be trapped on a date that isn’t working, coffee or even just breakfast, is the best option.

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            2 months ago

            I’ve always done coffee for first dates, from dating apps, or otherwise. It’s a great, relaxed atmosphere for getting to know someone. You can go for a walk, or chill in the cafe, then, if things are going well, and you both want to go further, you can get a meal after. The last woman I did this with, five years ago, is now my fiancée

      • NoIWontPickAName@kbin.earth
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        2 months ago

        You can just meet outside the restaurant.

        You just don’t go in before you meet them outside the front door.

        Hell, it can even be a chivalry test to see if he holds the door for you.

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          2 months ago

          Bugger that, I’m not loitering outside the door like that, I’d rather be inside.