The night I met my fiancee, we were both working in the same building. It was just a chance meeting, we made smalltalk for a bit, and then went back to work. About 10 minutes after she took the elevator to the next floor, I went to the other end of the building, and took the other elevator up a floor, hoping to “casually” catch her to chat some more. When the doors opened, she was right there. That’ll be five years ago in two weeks
How did you spark it up though? I would’ve been like “how’s your day” or some basic shit like that.
She actually approached me. She’d overheard me talking with another coworker about Star Trek, so she asked me about it. When I caught her after, I offered to stream a couple of TNG episodes and watch them with her, and I gave her my phone number. We got really lucky with compatibility right off the bat. In that same conversation, we found out we have the same favorite video game
meeting your wife over star trek of all things. that’s cool.
It’s cute because they ended up together. If they didn’t end up together this would read as a stalker story
Unless he realized she wasn’t interested and left her alone after that! That’s the normal, healthy thing to do!
People seem to forget that’s the normal thing to happen.
It’s unsettling how common that sort of story is, and it’s always something of a boast, too. “I never gave up! I ate dinner at the diner she worked in every night until she agreed to go on a date with me, and now we’re married!” Even as a “success” story, it’s not exactly great to think that the only reason they are together is because one partner “wore down” the other.
Dude is probably good looking so it doesn’t count as stalking
Edit: guess I’m showing my age and people don’t remember this video
I showed this to my wife and she said “Quit following me everywhere, you creep!”
The comments on this are weird. Dude had a crush and talked to her. She must have invited him to things and now they’re married. Everyone talking like he wore her down or wouldn’t have stopped if she was disinterested.
Dudes do be creepy, though, but let’s just leave this story be, ok.
It’s easy to misread as stalker/abuser behavior, as it’s worded simply and without context, and something like 40% of women will have to deal with a stalker at some point in their life.
There’s a big difference between “I had a crush on her, she invited me to a thing and her friends liked me and now we’re married” and “I wrote down the times this girl got out of work and when she went to the gym so that I could follow her and hit on her there, and then I infiltrated her group of friends with the intent of getting closer to her” but it’s easy to accidentally make the first sound like the second unintentionally - especially when people are primed to watch out for the second.
Exactly! My partner did this to me and it worked. How else were they meant to, dunno, begin existing in the life of the other party, aka stop being a stranger?
