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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AlStudentReddit on 2023-07-12 22:17:30.

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Me(F 32) and my wife Barbara (F 34) have been married for 9 years, and together we have a son Kasper (M 7). When my wife and I decided to get married We also made the decision to make a conjoined savings account for if we ended up in an emergency… Over the years we’ve saved up a pretty big amount of money, which I really appreciate since I have a lot of anxiety when it comes to financial stuff. So a couple of years ago my wife started attending a yoga class regularly, and recently she has started making some comments about wanting to teach yoga. I assumed she meant as a hobby and therefor I made sure to be supportive whenever she would talk about it.

Fast forward to today when I am on our online bank about to transfer some money to our savings account and see that over two thirds of the money has disappeared. I am of course confused and ask my wife about it as soon as she gets home. That’s when she tells me that she has used all this money to buy a yoga studio, fully furnished with mats and all. I start yelling at my wife asking her why she would use our conjoined savings for this irresponsible purchase. She then tells me she used our saving because she has quit her job to become a full time yoga instructor and therefor she didn’t have enough money herself. I started screaming and yelling calling her irresponsible! She then says that I am the asshole for yelling at her instead of talking it through like an adult.

We had to stop the argument because our son came home, and we don’t want to argue in front of him. Right now my wife is upstairs putting our son to bed and we will continue our conversation when he’s asleep.

But now I need to know, am I the asshole?

Sorry for any spelling mistakes as English is not my first language