I would congratulate OOP for this. this is how it’s done. in fact, it’s refreshingly normal. they were probably alarmed that it wasn’t innuendo or an attempt to hit on them. a lot of their hesitancy might have been their metaphorical "threat radar"s proverbially “overheating” as they strove to detect SOME sign of impropriety, and feeling even more alarmed when they couldn’t. Which is why one of them reciprocated socially, to test the waters. Whether OOP knew it or not, he made a disarming impression, which is good. Stay good, OOP!
Also, MAN, having assignments that pre-date the very first day of class is annoying >_< i’ve had that at least twice in my years of being a student as well, but it’s usually just a way for the professor/instructor to get an idea of what their student group’s level of understanding is for the material so they have a better idea of how to hit the ground running after they go over the usual First Day Stuff.
This comment made me think for a minute. My thought process was one initially of, “he can’t be talking to OOP we are two websites removed”. But that is the beauty of it. Someone else who may need both the OOP story and your congratulatory comment to build constructive self awareness could be on this site and learn from it. All that to say, no matter how small you think the scope of people you are reaching is keep commenting and being constructive like @[email protected]
It is good for the world when we support people in realistic ways. Sometimes you have to gently tell someone they are wrong, sometimes a simple congratulations go a long way. But not saying something is always worse.
i learned from appreciating those rare and beautiful versions of “i don’t know who hear to this but…” that are unironically wholesome and sincere. somebody someday might see something we wrote and feel better, be encouraged, or grow wiser. knowing how many neurodiverse people come through Lemmy and would click on that greentext because they identify with it… knowing they might explore the comments too? i want those future people to come away better than they were before they approached, even if only in a teeny tiny infinitesimal way!
I would congratulate OOP for this. this is how it’s done. in fact, it’s refreshingly normal. they were probably alarmed that it wasn’t innuendo or an attempt to hit on them. a lot of their hesitancy might have been their metaphorical "threat radar"s proverbially “overheating” as they strove to detect SOME sign of impropriety, and feeling even more alarmed when they couldn’t. Which is why one of them reciprocated socially, to test the waters. Whether OOP knew it or not, he made a disarming impression, which is good. Stay good, OOP!
Also, MAN, having assignments that pre-date the very first day of class is annoying >_< i’ve had that at least twice in my years of being a student as well, but it’s usually just a way for the professor/instructor to get an idea of what their student group’s level of understanding is for the material so they have a better idea of how to hit the ground running after they go over the usual First Day Stuff.
This comment made me think for a minute. My thought process was one initially of, “he can’t be talking to OOP we are two websites removed”. But that is the beauty of it. Someone else who may need both the OOP story and your congratulatory comment to build constructive self awareness could be on this site and learn from it. All that to say, no matter how small you think the scope of people you are reaching is keep commenting and being constructive like @[email protected]
It is good for the world when we support people in realistic ways. Sometimes you have to gently tell someone they are wrong, sometimes a simple congratulations go a long way. But not saying something is always worse.
i learned from appreciating those rare and beautiful versions of “i don’t know who hear to this but…” that are unironically wholesome and sincere. somebody someday might see something we wrote and feel better, be encouraged, or grow wiser. knowing how many neurodiverse people come through Lemmy and would click on that greentext because they identify with it… knowing they might explore the comments too? i want those future people to come away better than they were before they approached, even if only in a teeny tiny infinitesimal way!