Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn’t shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

// Edit:

Thank you for all the recommendations and input. I wasn’t aware of the pouch feature. Researched all suggested brands and:

Ordered from overseas:

  • SAXX
  • BN3TH

Currently not deliverable:

  • Step One

Lululemon does have a store in the city, so I will go there next week to try those on.

  • Crozekiel@lemmy.zip
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    Am I the only person that actually wants an openable fly in their boxer-briefs? All these companies these days willing to make 2 distinct pockets for balls and shaft but won’t let me poke out for fresh air or a bathroom trip without having to deal with the waistband drive me nuts. My cock didn’t commit any crimes, I don’t want to force it into solitary confinement…

    The worst part is I found my perfect underwear several years back and the company has basically disappeared. They had a sort of soft and loose-ish horizontal fly that basically revolutionized my relationship with my crotch and I can’t find more :(

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    9 hours ago

    This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

    Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn’t believe. Yes there’ll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there’s plenty that are more “reserved”.

    BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

    And because the queer community largely (not always, but we’re working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

    Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

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      9 hours ago

      It never for one second occurred to me that a gay me could have a wider choice of underwear than a straight me currently does. Firing up the private browser tab as we speak - thanks for the info.

  • s_s@lemm.ee
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    6 hours ago

    Pair of Thieves long legged boxer briefs their “superfit” material. Available at Target.

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    8 hours ago

    I had similar issues before but then I decided to try Other Danish Guy boxers. They are expensive but I realized that they are best clothing item that I own. I have recommend them to some of my friends and few of them also fell in love with them. They are much strechier than other boxers that I have tried and really comfortable to wear.

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    23 hours ago

    My friend, it’s like searching for true love. You’re going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

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        No recommendation is any good. Again, as with true love, what makes the heart of one man soar like an eagle will only throw another into the nadir of despair. Many a man rejoices to have their intimate areas caressed by Calvin Klein, but the same brand has strangled the gonads of the unfortunate few.

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          5 hours ago

          I follow your advice and will go into the city to shop for my underwear needs. You are absolutely right: My trunk differs from others. My requirements also change depending on my daily tasks. So I will address this explicitly!

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            3 hours ago

            If it wasn’t underwear I’d advise you to ask a fellow of similar proportions what they like. It’s one thing to discuss jeans with a stranger irl and quite another to ask about intimate attire.

            Have a good day, internet stranger

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          Yes but at least they are getting unique ideas and not just whatever ad bullshit the general internet feeds them.

          I also love the A+ prose.

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    19 hours ago

    I have a similar issue that the package often goes backward, if that makes sense. It’s so uncomfortable if it happens after taking a seat in a meeting so you can’t fix it. My solution is to purchase boxer briefs from those fetish brands. They usually carry a product line that pushes up the package. I don’t need the visual appeal but the design groups everything to the front, so they have nowhere else to go. Then you just choose a size that the pouch is just big enough.

    • 7dev7random7@suppo.fiOP
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      I feel you bro. When I am in an overall working outside this issue is unbearable. You can’t bow, knee or anything so I am constantly pulling to switch sizes depending on what I’m doing. I go fk nutz currently

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    22 hours ago

    Having went through this recently and tried ~5 brands, I recommend Duluth. I like the dang soft, but I’m still exploring their line up.

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    Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

    • 7dev7random7@suppo.fiOP
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      6 hours ago

      After researching, I wear trunk-size retroshorts. You tip enabled me to query the internet. Thanks!

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    22 hours ago

    Personally I use meundies long boxer briefs. They run a little small. I’m a big guy, 40-44 waist, usually for shirts I wear a 2x, 1x if it runs big. I need to go 3x in meindies and even then they’re a little tight, but not uncomfortably so.

    They last a while, I’ve had a few pairs for a few years now. I’d recommend joining the membership (no fees, cancel anytime, postpone anytime) and get a pair. If you like them, get a new pair every month or two. Till you fill out your closet.

    They’re a little pricey at close to $15 - $20 a pair, but they’re fun patterns and decent quality if you feel like splurging. But get ready for ads on every ither youtube video for the next year if you even go to their website

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      $20 each is pretty inexpensive, given that they aid my issues!

      I didn’t find a decent picture of the pouch on their website. So I skipped ordering one. It looks like their pouch is pretty narrow.

      I am similiar sized, I checked each brand for size recommendations before ordering.

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    SAXX

    They are pricey but totally worth it. They last a long time, are very comfortable and have a pouch for your stuff. You can usually find deals on their website for things like discontinued holiday prints. I don’t really care what mine look like so I wear a lot of Christmas themed boxer briefs. I’d recommend the Vibe.

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    20 hours ago

    They’re not cheap by any means but stance boxer briefs have not done me wrong. Even the tighter bits are pretty stretchy to accommodate. Loose enough but supportive.