• ShranTheWaterPoloFan@startrek.website
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    1 year ago

    I’m going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don’t believe that’s a unique perspective.

    I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

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      I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

      By definition that’s not possible. Unless you’re accusing me of being incompetent; correct exercise of coping mechanisms cannot make life more difficult because they’re engineered as a ratchet.

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        It is common to develop a drug or alcohol addiction as part of a coping mechanism. That can absolutely make your life more difficult. Coping mechanisms can make it more difficult to make changes that will better your life.

        The path of least resistance isn’t always the easiest path.

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          I promise you that this is not the “path of least resistance”. In fact, it may be the path of most resistance - that’s evidence it’s the right one.

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              People’s reactions to my choices make my life more difficult, and that’s why they are good. They can choose not to make my life more difficult; they instead make the immoral choice. My choice is moral and therefore the only one I can really make.

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                It’s interesting that any pushback you is evidence you are correct. It’s also interesting that you take no responsibility for any difficulties you might experience, it’s always the result of someone else’s choice.

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                  I take responsibility for things I have actually done wrong. The problem here is that people conflate their out-of-control feelings with factual incorrectness. I can’t be responsible for your feelings, especially when you go out of your way to feel things in bad faith to blame me for those feelings. It’s your responsibility to not allow your feelings to affect your judgment in any way.

                  You don’t actually care about me being truly responsible - you just want me to be stupid enough and submissive enough to accept responsibility for things I have no duty to be responsible for. You want me to be responsible for your feelings that you have in bad faith, so you can justify “punishing” me arbitrarily.