• Asafum@feddit.nl
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    1 month ago

    I spent hours a day going through every single person’s profile - looking it over to really get as best of an understanding of the person as I could - and if I took interest in a few points, I’d send a message personalized to them based on what I saw on their profile. I also made sure that my own profile was well fleshed out, filling every field with well thought out responses

    I appreciate the advice, but I did all of this as well! I just don’t have the pictures of adventures because that’s not me lol I used to do a lot of hiking, but I’ve noticed a lot of profiles mention “I don’t care about your hiking or catching fish” (I don’t fish, but it was a common thing I’d read.) I think it’s just the kinds of people around me are too different than I am.

    My self image definitely doesn’t help either. I’m of the age where everyone is a professional and I’m just a worthless shitbag factory supervisor.

    • Signtist@lemm.ee
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      1 month ago

      That sucks, bud. I hope your future love makes their way to your living room eventually!

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        1 month ago

        It sure pays like one lol a bit better than a lot of other jobs an “uneducated” schmuck like me can get I suppose. I think it’s just how society views some types of jobs that leaves me feeling worthless.

        • thanks_shakey_snake@lemmy.ca
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          26 days ago

          Yeah well society is an asshole and personally I ignore most of what it says.

          You’re in a position where you can affect whether the people around you feel like a worthless piece of shit, or like a valuable, appreciated human being. If you’re usually doing the latter and trying to avoid the former (and make it right when it does happen) then you’re not a worthless piece of shit.

          You deserve to receive that too, and I’m sorry that you aren’t.

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            25 days ago

            You’re in a position where you can affect whether the people around you feel like a worthless piece of shit, or like a valuable, appreciated human being.

            That is actually how I operate, I’m always advocating for the guys I work with and buy them breakfast or something after a push. I always make sure to thank them for their help at the end of the day. It’s a bit easier as I work with them as opposed to over them and I think they see that. It helps that I get to point to the office as the “other” that is making life difficult as opposed to being part of it as well lol