When I was 20 I was diagnosed by a psychologist with having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. At first I was in denial about but over time I come to terms with my narcissism and the diagnosis started to make sense to me. A lot of my problems can be traced back to my unrealistic self image and lack of ability to relate with others.

There’s a lot of stigma towards NPD. I hope by making this thread I can help others understand that having NPD doesn’t inherently make you a bad person and NPD hurts the person with it as well.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    15 hours ago

    It’s about methodology and motivation, really.

    Narcissistic abusers tend to things like gaslighting more than insults, or pushing the victim’s buttons to make them seem unstable to get sympathy/attention. It tends to be about manipulation over direct abuse, though there is direct abuse sometimes.

    An example would be a parent that constantly criticizes their child indirectly, by comparing them to “bad” kids, and then saying how good their child has it because some parents wouldn’t put up with whatever imagined flaw is present.

    Not that a narcissistic abuser never does direct abuse, they can and do. It’s just that they tend to worry about appearances, so they reserve it for limited use. Like, the kid that makes a mistake in public and then gets beat at home because they made the parent look bad.