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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/Throwaway8-874 on 2023-07-19 11:02:54.

My (21M) father (49M) is a priest. So it’s easy to imagine how our dynamic was after I came out to him 2 years ago. He tried everything he could to convince me to give up this lifestyle, but to no avail, which just made him more bitter towards me. We had a dinner with our extended family and my dad kept glancing my way. He suddenly got up to give a speech and something along the lines of how there’s a devil in each one of us and some stubbornly refuse to fight it off, while looking straight at me. He then said how disappointed he is that his own son would rather give in to superfluous carnal pleasures rather than respect his duties as a fellow Christian, but that he hasn’t given up hope yet that one day he’ll be able to put me back into God’s way.

I saw red and right then I got up and told him who does he think he is to judge me for giving in to carnal pleasures when he literally cheated on my mom with a 19 year old girl. “You literally slept with a girl around my age out of marriage, but am I the one who needs to be showed back to God’s way, alright”. You can just imagine the circus that followed after and my dad’s meltdown, who kicked me out of the house and told me to never come back. That night I got a call from my mother (47F) crying to me about how word already got around my dad’s affair and how he risks losing his job as a priest cause of me. She reminded me that we agreed to never speak again of my dad’s affair, especially to anyone else (me and my mom were the only ones to know of it before I spilled the beans at the dinner) and now our whole family’s reputation is ruined cause I couldn’t keep my promise.

I knew there was no point in fighting her as she’s a pushover in front of my dad and she’ll defend him no matter what, but I do wonder if revealing such a damaging secret to my dad’s reputation and career at an extended family dinner was the correct decision. I only did it cause I was enraged at him after all.

AITA ?