• bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works
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    26 days ago

    Am i the only one who wishes this was common? Put your stupid phones away. How have we not matured enough to not be so addicted to little flashy lights.

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      26 days ago

      I spend most my time on the phone socializing anyway. I’m addicted to feeling connected with people I care about not “little flashy lights”. I’m not at coffee shops to meet people I’m there to change pace for a minute and reset before I move to another task. If I’m specifically with someone then sure I talk to them but usually I want to be anywhere else because coffee shops in Seattle are so loud I can’t hold a conversation

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        26 days ago

        You have a good point. But it’s there in your post; “feeling” connected. But for many people, they actually aren’t. They feel connected because of notifications and little dings that give them dopamine, much like a rat in a test lab hitting buttons for treats. Thats why I am surprised no one sees this.

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      26 days ago

      who talked to random strangers at coffee shops even before phones?

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          26 days ago

          then you and i must be in different parts of the world because here, most people in coffee shops just used to read the paper.

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      26 days ago

      i guess i am getting old. but i really think it is sad, when a group goes to the restaurant/coffee/bar and everyone is staring at their individual screen

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        26 days ago

        McDonald’s STILL has newspapers sitting in a rack next to the counter where I am. Growing up these places had magazines and newspapers available to read. People “back then” didn’t just randomly talk to strangers, they just kept themselves busy with other things.

        Yes, there’s a problem with people not interacting physically anymore, but it’s not cause we have electronics, it’s cause people don’t have a place to go outside the home anymore. This is a problem with a lack of community centers and walk-able neighborhoods, not a problem with phones.

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          26 days ago

          i partially agree with you. but most social media is carefully designed to make you keep interacting with it. because of phones, you can bring a nearly endless stream of distractions everywhere you go. the newspaper you can read a maxim of once.

          it was impossible to get more than a “Mmh” out of my grandfather, while he was reading his newspaper. so i know what you mean. but when he was done with it, he was done with it. after his 0.5 h per day of newspaper, he was an amazing conversationalist and always had time for whoever wanted something. so i would say there is a difference.

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            26 days ago

            Exactly. Keep the poors in their dumb little walled garden social media so they don’t ever learn everything. The average person now is terrified of the Internet if it isn’t Google or meta. Ironically, the things they trust are the most evil of all by far.