… And at worst, actively making your bedroom less functional and more cumbersome to use. The arguments I hear in favor of it are completely asinine and I will address them one by one.
- It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn’t imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.
- It doesn’t take much time, so you might as well do it.
I find any task not worth my time to be a waste, so unless it has a purpose, it is actively infuriating to do.
- It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy
Given that this is an entirely subjective reason, I can’t exactly “disagree” with it. But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I’m not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.
Not to mention that if you want to nap or even sit on the end of the bed, you have to make it again. It is an incredibly unstable artwork, making me avoid using my bed unless I really need to.
If you make your bed, I have no judgment for you. Just like people who fold designs into the ends of their toilet paper. I couldn’t imagine caring about something like that, but it literally doesn’t affect me at all, so go nuts.
But I think we should be honest and call it what it is: some kind of shameful cleaning ritual that is probably some vestigial military chore, and I want nothing to do with it.
Back in the days, mattresses were made of straw or other natural materials. Blankets and pillows were stuffed with feathers until recently. And people were not able to heat their bedrooms sufficiently during winter. Back in those days, you had to make your bed in order to air it and dry it from sweat. Otherwise it would start to get moldy really quickly.
Today, synthetic materials and central heating / air conditioning have eliminated the need for a strict humidity management in the bedroom. But it’s still stuck in people’s heads that making your bed is absolutely vital. I guess it’ll take another one or two generations for it to become irrelevant.
It took you longer to write this post then it does for me to fix my bed in the morning.
Some people function better when things are organized and orderly, some function better when things are disorganized and in disarray, some function the same either way.
It is what it is. An orderly, organized bedroom feels great to sleep in to me, and might not matter at all to someone else.
Whatever the case, anyone judging me because my bed is either made or not made can fuck right off.
Edit: upvoted for unpopularity, as one does.
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When I get the care to do it, its nice having a neat room.
To me, “making my bed” is only done when the bedding needs to be removed from the bed to be washed and then put back on the bed again.
Does anyone really give a shit seeing a bed with the covers just left where they were after waking up and getting out of bed?
Like if you were gonna sleep with someone, would you be turned off if when you got to their bedroom, the blanket was crumpled off to one side?
If you dial the resolution back beyond the bed, you have the whole human experience.
Finding meaning within a finite existence framed against the infinite is not easy but, if you pick up your fucking room a little, maybe it can be done with a bit more class and comfort?
Lmao, matey. If you’re defining class and comfort by the making of a bed, you might need to dial the resolution back even further.
For me, it’s a huge headache saver. We have a 60 lb dog who likes to get into bed with us, along with one of our cats. If I don’t make my side of the bed prior to my wife and the dog getting in, I’m probably not going to have usable sheets and blankets for the night. Wherever the sheets are when he decides to hop in, that’s where they’re staying.
So, I definitely make at least my side of the bed every day, at some point. Not usually right away in the morning, but it definitely gets done. I don’t go all out on it, just get the sheet and blanket (and comforter, in winter) in essentially the right position for me. It’s critical for a good night of sleep.
And, yes, we probably shouldn’t have let him in the bed in the first place. Lesson learned. That’s a whole other story. But the damage is done.
My room is really small, and I don’t have space for a couch for example, so if I would want to lay down and I’m in outdoor clothes, I would rather kill myself than to lay down in unmade bed while wearing jeans that saw every sort of dirt and dust
In that case, are you fully doing your bed every time, or just putting the duvet or whatever flat on the mattress so that it’s protecting it ?
I make my bed because my cats will absolutely shed all their hairs on my side of the bed that one time I forgot to do it. Slightly allergic, so I learned fast lol.
I prefer to air the bed during the day so I pull the covers down to the end and fold over once. Pillows are reset so they’re fresh and comfy to start the night. Maybe later in the day I’ll pull the covers up but doesn’t later since it’s all neat anyway.
None of that is performative, it’s about freshness and comfort.
- Is raises the chance of having sex, at least for my wife she definitely gets more in the mood when we go to bed and the bedroom looks clean and nice.
Yeah, but how often is your wife in OP’s bedroom?
You’d be surprised. Actually, on second thought, maybe you wouldn’t.
About as often as I am in OPs bedroom…
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You make the mistake of assuming that someone makes it look nice for someone else and not themselves.
Depression is a motherfucker. It really can rob that from you.
It is kinda stupid. The less i do stuff for myself, the more i get depressed.
So i sometimes groom myself back into action, before getting too depressed to give a fuck
Exactly.
I have 2 dogs, and I’d prefer their shed hair ON the bed, rather than IN the bed.
This is something that’s recently been changing my tune towards making my bed. And it’s not just hair, but dirt and schmutz they drag in from outside.
That too, for sure.
THANK you. My cat was adorable, but inhaling her fur while trying to get to sleep was difficult…
…I don’t understand. How do you not inhale her fur when she places her butthole right on your lips as you fall asleep?
…what? Is my cat the ONLY one who does this???
Every pet thread there is at least one comment that reminds me how happy I am to not be a pet owner
I honestly feel like this is some sort of genetic thing. Even kittens, who have never had a chance to be taught this, somehow know exactly when the most inopportune time is and seem to focus on getting it just right.
