fwiw the ‘queer’ women in my life have been the most judgemental of my sexuality. i guess if you agonize about your own sexuality all the time you project that onto other folks though.
That’s probably not a coincidence, as the label “queer” is a political identity statement. That is, the people who have made it an important part of their personality are the ones who self-identify that way. I’ve known many gay men and women for whom their sexuality is an incidental part of their lives, and none of them feel affinity for the “queer” label.
fwiw the ‘queer’ women in my life have been the most judgemental of my sexuality. i guess if you agonize about your own sexuality all the time you project that onto other folks though.
I’m sure this isn’t universal but every self identified queer person I’ve met or dated has made it their entire personality.
That’s probably not a coincidence, as the label “queer” is a political identity statement. That is, the people who have made it an important part of their personality are the ones who self-identify that way. I’ve known many gay men and women for whom their sexuality is an incidental part of their lives, and none of them feel affinity for the “queer” label.