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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • Agreed. OP can just say, “Having kids isn’t for me.” And that’s cool, we accept that. It sounds a bit like trying to justify the choice to themselves or at the very least help other be ok with the decision to not have kids. The pet analogy is over simplified. One thing I will say is that having kids of your own vs being around someone else’s is very different. Being there through the grow and maturity into a functional human is the reward and frankyly it goes super fast. It felt like.yeaterday I was holding my kids as newborns and now they are in high school. The journey is the experience .To each their own on their choices.


  • Hey mate, first off, I really want to say I’m sorry you’re going through this. Breakups are tough, and it’s even harder when you’re feeling isolated in a small town. What you’re going through is a painful experience and it’s totally okay to be upset about it.

    But let me tell you this: there’s always a silver lining, always an opportunity to grow and evolve, even if it’s buried under a pile of crap right now. You’re already taking big steps towards healing by seeking professional help and taking time for yourself. That’s a big win and don’t downplay it.

    Building mental health is an ongoing process, and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to have bad days. Some days you may feel on top of the world, and others, it may be hard to even get out of bed. But it’s those hard days that really build our strength. It’s all about balance. There will be good days and bad days, but all of them contribute to our growth.

    Short term direction is another thing you might want to work on. Right now, your world might seem all over the place, and that’s okay. It’s important to take small steps towards creating some semblance of order. Maybe start with setting small goals, like taking your dog for a walk every day at the same time, or doing something you love for a set amount of time each day. This gives you something to look forward to and creates a sense of routine in your life.

    As for your strengths and weaknesses, we all have them. The trick is to not dwell on your weaknesses, but rather focus on your strengths and how you can use them to build upon those weaknesses. For example, you’ve shown a great deal of resilience and introspection in your post. Those are awesome strengths that can help you in many areas of life, like forming new relationships and building self-esteem.

    Getting to know yourself is another big step towards improving your mental health. Who are you beyond the labels society puts on you? What are your values? Your passions? The more you know about yourself, the easier it is to love and respect yourself.

    I know you’re feeling isolated in your town, and it sounds really tough. I get that meeting new people is difficult there. The internet can be a great way to connect with others who share similar interests. There are plenty of communities here online like Lemmy, for example, for every hobby, interest, or lifestyle you can think of. You can also consider volunteering online, which can offer a sense of purpose and allow you to connect with others.

    As for moving out of the town, it might seem impossible now, but don’t lose hope. Keep an eye out for opportunities. Maybe you can look for remote work that could help you save money to move.

    The road ahead might be tough, but remember you’re stronger than you think. You’re capable of great things and the current situation is just a chapter in your life, not the whole book. Hang in there, buddy. Things will get better. Sending you virtual fist bumps and wishing you strength in this tough time. You’ve got this.