Yeppers, peppers! 🫑

Found it! It’s almost 3 hrs long, so you know what that means: a glass of wine, your favorite easy chair, and of course, this YouTube video streaming on your home system. So, go on, and indulge yourself. That’s right, kick off your shoes, put your feet up, lean back and just enjoy the rational documentary. After all, knowledge soothes even the savage lemming.

Thanks! I corrected it 👍

I agree. I really wish that when Biden Trump was going off on the stolen pets that were eaten, Harris would have asked Trump if he was okay and told the audience that we needed a psychiatrist to administer Trump the MoCA again.

edit: Oops.

This community is like that. Whenever I see a picture on here that makes me think it’s some corny ass bullshit an old immigrant from the Soviet Union would show me in the late 90s, I already know I’m in Home of the Haha.

Yeah, the system is jacked up. We need a better one like our lives depend on it.

it’s part of the conspilluminati

YESSS! Rice 20 pounders and the pork shoulders.

Can anyone ELI5 what the axes mean?

This is my favorite one of yours so far!

Remembering from my social psychology classes in undergrad, I believe number is 150. But yes, that’s a good point. It’s one of the reasons people in major urban areas like NYC are capable of moving on with their lives when terrible things happen to those around them. We biologically can’t care about people once we reach our 150 limit. Btw, I think the authors of that theory argued that that number is one of the major differences between us and other social species.

I hate our healthcare system and especially the parasites that run health insurance companies, but they do provide a product.

1. They pool our money together so that the ones that need healthcare can afford it. Barely anyone can afford out-of-pocket cancer treatment or a stay in the ICU after a serious accident. It could be a serious pain in ass to get insurance to pay sometimes if they even do, but overall, they do pay. If they never paid, we’d have a revolution by now. The last time they started with not paying, people started demanding change, which almost lead to the public option.
2. They offer a check on healthcare providers that want to over -treat and -prescribe to charge more money, or doctors that go rogue with whacky ideas. Since the general population doesn’t know much about medicine, doctors would be able to prescribe all sorts of illegitimate treatments if we didn’t have a body making sure that their recommendations were legit.

I agree that they do fucked up things, like withhold on pay outs, deny interventions that may save lives, charge way too much, and lobby to maintain or even improve their wealth and power, but they do still offer a product. I’m someone that is lucky enough to have access to 100% free government healthcare in the US. Even with that, I’m often jealous of people that have private insurance because I find many benefits to their healthcare over mine.

If we want to improve our healthcare, I think it would be best to acknowledge the reality of the situation rather than exaggerate it.

remember saying no has to have consequences!

• Yep! I’ve put that into practice. Sick of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. I think I used to give it a lot because I thought I needed it a lot due to my autistic traits missing social cues and whatever implications people took from my statements/behaviors. Lately, I’ve recognized that a lot of what I thought were the impact of my aloof behaviors were actually others shaming me. Previously, I would just assume I messed up and would try to learn social rules from it. Now, I’m at the point that if I say something and someone took it wrong, we can address it collaboratively. But if I’m the one that is expected to make changes to accommodate their perception rather than negotiating a happy middle in which we both make changes, then forget it. I’m not going to be the one that is automatically “wrong” whenever there is a disagreement.

mostly, their words dont fit into their actions.

• Yes!! I learned the acronym ABB: Always Believe Behavior. If someone says something but behaves differently, the behavior is the truth.

look out for key phrases - one might be: "So you are saying? " this is usually followed by a thing you did not say at all.

• I’ve been working on something similar. Basically, I’m tired of people telling me what I mean and more importantly, what my intentions are or why I do things. Thinking back to the people I remember using that phrase often, those people ended up being unbearable to me. Eventually, I would just stay quiet to avoid them taking anything the wrong way, which meant I would stop existing. Sucks I went through all of that, but at least I learned how to use I-statements well!

another might be: “I am so sorry you feel that way.”

• And “you’re too sensitive!” lol. I seriously want a shirt on it that says “I’m too sensitive” to wear it like a badge of honor.

What i do for the “so you are saying” is the following: I bid them politely and soft spoken to repeat the question, as soon as they are past 3 words, I interrupt them really loud and aggressive with: “NO, I DID NOT SAY THAT AT ALL!” then I shut up and stare. I say nothing. the other guy has to say something first. it is a powerstruggle.

• That doesn’t seem like something that would work well with my style of interaction, but I appreciate the example. I rarely talk through implication unless I’m making a ridiculous joke. Aside from underplaying my feelings and experiences, I think I am very direct. So, if someone is asking me, “So you are saying…?” then there is a major disconnect in communication, or we’re back to that “putting words in my mouth” crap. Either way, if that happens infrequently, then it might be tolerable. If it’s a routine thing, then there’s no need to maintain that relationship.

combative, social, competetive, diplomacy or bartering. dont make my mistake, each and every situation was always social for me.

• In the past, I would fawn when I noticed competitiveness hoping that their “win” would cause them to stop it, but I’ve learned that more often than not, they’re never satisfied. The point isn’t to win. It’s to dominate. I’ve done a lot better with combative environments in the past year, so I’m happy with that progress. While I’ve learned to reject combative situations, I have still stayed in for longer than I should have in competitive ones. I’m working on leaving those situations much quicker now though. Lately, I’ve been immersing myself in situations that are collaborative or at the least, understanding. There’s definitely a different feel to it. It’s much nicer and enjoyable. The competitive ones are exhausting.
• Bonus: Hanging around other neurodivergent people has helped me gain perspective by seeing how people treat them. It’s a lot easier for me to see toxic and manipulative behaviors happen from a 3rd person perspective. Once I see it, then it’s easier to recognize when it’s happening to me in 1st person. Bonus from bonus: helps me have a lot of compassion for myself.

ok, I am glad you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps. (figure of speech)

• Thank you, and you too! I appreciate the conversation. I hope you have a nice week also.

Joseph Kittinger

That guy had one hell of an interesting life: world-record altitude, world-record jump, flying in combat and being shot down over Vietnam, being a POW, being the first person to cross the Atlantic on a balloon, and making it onto a game show.

No, crows guarded the Wall. The messenger birds were ravens.

Goodridge, aged forty when she completed the miniature, depicts breasts that appear imbued with a “balance, paleness, and buoyancy” by the harmony of light, color, and balance.

There’s no way her tits looked like that at 40. No sir, I’m not buying it. 🐴

So out of the 345 computers in Antarctica, one is Linux.

that’s fine because i don’t download copyrighted material. everything on furries.com is freely available.

what happened??