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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • I’m guessing that EI is what you call unemployment benefits where you are? In which case, unfortunately no. Previous employer made up bullshit to fire me over so I wasn’t eligible, and I was told I didn’t work long enough at the place that burned down to qualify. My savings got almost entirely wiped out just paying rent and buying groceries.

    It was a dark time full of struggles, but I got through it and I’m doing pretty well now. The silver lining is that, when I’m having a rough week, I can think back to how that chunk of life was going and know that I’ve gotten through worse. I was homeless for about two months a bit later, but by then I found a job and knew that I’d find stability soon. Things didn’t actually start getting good until I quit the kitchen career. And I’m one of the lucky few who never even got sucked into the hard drug aspect of that life. Never even smoked a cigarette lol.



  • I was unemployed for a while in late 2010, early 2011 and was constantly on the job search. I was a line cook previously and was looking for similar work. I finally got in at a sports bar, but they only had an opening for a host at the time, so I took it. When I went in on my third day, I found that the place had fucking burned down.

    I was unemployed for another few months before finding a new job. That was a rough year or so lol.



  • I thought I was pretty clear about it when you said that you were against the idea of posts about people defending themselves against rapists.

    Being against it can only really be viewed as an objection to consequences for rapists raping people.

    I’m not saying that you’re currently defending rapists, but it sounds an awful lot like you would be on the rapists’ side since you wouldn’t stand up to a request to block content that suggests that a rape victim should defensively harm their rapist to stop their rape. If that’s your stance, then that’s defending a rapist. That would be advocating against consequences for rapists, and I’m assuming that only a rapist who wanted to continue getting away with it would order such a thing. Or maybe it’s on behalf of their rapist friends. The point is that people who don’t rape people shouldn’t have any problem with the idea that rapists should know that getting killed in their quest to commit a rape is a very real possibility, and most people wouldn’t even feel sorry for them for being killed while attempting rape.

    If there’s a situation where we need to choose whether a person gets raped or the person attempting the rape gets killed in order to stop/prevent that rape, I don’t think there’s even anything to debate.

    It’s no wonder women chose bears. jfc.


  • It’s not advocating for violence. It’s advocating for defending against rape. Without rape, which is obviously violent in and of itself, there’s no violence to speak of. The bottom line here is that, through deterrence, this sort of post yields a reduction in violence. Being against it can only really be viewed as an objection to consequences for rapists raping people.

    If you got a ticket ordering you to cut off Lemmy over this, then it’s your duty to push back. An awful lot of terrible people were “just following orders” and the world doesn’t forgive that excuse. Stop defending rapists.


  • Conservatives are generally hierarchical pussies. Whoever is high ranking and assertive about being the new leader will be the new leader and everybody will line up to be his footrest. Even without a decent choice, they will push somebody into the position even if they’re bland garbage. Source: the shit show that was them searching for a House Speaker and settling for Mike Johnson.

    The ones with the balls to break away from the party only did so to follow trump, and they now control the party because eventually the cowards got in line like good little followers. I think that trump losing this time may have convinced enough to steer the party back to a less extreme position, but his win taught them that the country is ready for full on christofascism, and there’s nothing to be gained from the inevitable failure that would be an attempt to fracture/mutiny the party. They’re more evil than dumb.


  • I see where you’re coming from, but no, just like how everybody was cool with Indiana Jones killing Nazis, we’re all pretty cool with rapists getting killed by their victims.

    Don’t want to get killed by a rape victim? Then don’t rape them. Pretty simple stuff. I’m 36 next month I haven’t accidentally raped anybody even once, so I’m pretty sure you’re fine if you’re not actively trying to prey upon somebody.

    Violence is the only language these people “joking” about “your body, my choice” can understand. If we make it clear that we will fucking kill them if they try to act on that “joke” then it may serve as a deterrent. Too many women are sexually assaulted and raped, and most of their predators get away with it.

    Let’s all stop being so goddamn tolerant. I don’t care if it hurts a rapist’s feelings. If you have a problem with that stance, then I implore you to take a good hard look at what kind of person you are that you would side with a rapist against somebody who would defend themselves against their rapist. Maybe that makes you an accessory to rape, because at that point, you’re worse than complicit, you’re actively supporting rape.

    I didn’t think it’d be such a hot take to say that rapists who get killed while attempting rape got what they had coming to them, but here we are.










  • Not so much weird, but it’s weird that it’s simultaneously hilarious and day-ruiningly depressing.

    I saw a little bowl with small jewelry in it like charms and earrings. Among them was the right half of a heart that read “FRIENDS” and just below that was “EVER”. I’m 100% certain that there exists somewhere the left half of that heart that reads “BEST” and “FOR” with identical formatting, and that friendship either ended dramatically or fizzled out over time.

    It made me think about some previous close friendships I’ve had and how people can either just grow apart or have a violent falling out. And I wondered who in their right mind would buy just half of that best friends forever charm. Why would a thrift shop even have that available?

    Kinda fascinating that an entire coming of age story can be told by just half of a piece of jewelry I found at a thrift store, and I’ll never know the truth, yet I’ll never forget it.