SoloboiNanook [comrade/them]

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  • She was poly and seeing a couple people, though very casually. So before she became far more ace she was already encouraging me. I was pretty stubborn about it, and did not feel pre-disposed to it. Eventually when things started heading the way it did, I started seeing someone, and she was very enthusiastic about it. The other partner started as casual and eventually got pretty serious. I now see both of them equally.

    I 10000% understand thinking it is a frightening proposition, but it was more natural than I thought it would be. The most intimidating thing and biggest change up was learning to schedule time and dates with two women. They don’t mind each other at all, but they don’t really hang out unless at the same party, so keeping everything separate has been a fun journey to go through.

    If your partner is encouraging it, maybe start looking a little for something casual. You don’t have to jump in to something serious. Plenty of people are down to clown.


  • My partner is also ace currently due to a couple of SA situations that happened over the last couple of years. Quite similar to you, a lot of drug use, mental issues and living situations and financial problems for her (and me) in general.

    She basically heavily encouraged me to get another partner and I did, and I see both of them. I am sexually active with one of them as of now, but it’s been going pretty swell. Of course we have other problems stemming from pretty severe mental issues on her part, but we deal with it. My other partner knows her situation and is cool if she becomes sexually active again etc. It’s doable and I would be lying if I didn’t say it relieved me quite a lot when I started seeing someone else as well.

    If u got any questions, shoot.

    For reference I’ve been seeing the currently ace partner for 4 years and she’s been completely ace for over a year now, and I’ve been seeing the other partner for a year.









  • Tale as old as time. Been discussing this with fighting games forever. I’ve been playing fighting games very competitively for about 13 years now, and the shit u hear nowadays is very different than when I started.

    When I started with mvc3, the general sentiment was “fuckin deal with it”. Fighting games were not receiving a ton of patches to deal with broken or insane shit so what you got was what you got. In marvels case there was like…3 total patches over its life? And we played that shit for half a decade. If it was busted, then figure it out dummy. Or use it yourself. Also since online was busted this was all shit talked about at locals at the bars and stuff. Good times.

    Over time as fighting games started simplifying concepts, and the idea of continuous updates became commonplace, weird nerds infiltrated. I don’t really want to say casuals, cause there is nothing casual about these nerds thirst for validation and excuses. People who don’t understand basic concepts of fighting games are demanding the absolute dumbest shit, and just cannot accept being outplayed. Hell, half the reason I play fighting games because I want it to be me and another person playing on the same stage with the same information. I’m not looking to blame anything but my own ability. This idea is not that prevalent in modern fg discourse. Just shittons of posts about “fuck this character, fuck that mechanic, this is dogshit, patch now. Netcode fucked me. It ate my inputs. Why does this character have this, why doesn’t MY character have that. Shit game, trash game, all these games are bad. We need more patches.”

    People desperately don’t want to accept that they simply have not put the time in or just aren’t very good. And its ok to not be top 10 in a FG. Its actually really fucking hard. It’s not ok when you feel like Bandai, Capcom, arcsys have personally robbed you and should capitulate to your poorly thought out ideas, and that none of your losses count because it wasn’t your fault.

    Accept the L. Accept the game and it’s current state. Work with it and work around it, and play, learn, and have fun. Instead we have a bunch of players who act like they are temporarily embarrassed EVO champs lol.