Wheaties [she/her]

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Cake day: November 2nd, 2020

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  • I identify with a lot of this. I feel pretty isolated in conversations with people, at work, with family, with friends and acquaintances. I cope by listening much and saying little… which…doesn’t help with feeling isolated… but… someone will surprise you. I think there’s cool people everywhere, it’s just hard to tell at a glance. People often say horrible things without meaning to, or without realizing they’re horrible. It sucks, I want people to be nice to one another, to think before talking, to care about even the strangers around them. At work, when I talk it’s mostly qualify the shit my co-works say unthinkingly in front of customers and each-other. I don’t wanna be the conversation police. But I also don’t want to foster a hostile environment. It’s maddening.

    But… sometimes you notice the person who also notices the horrible things being said. Sometimes they notice you putting out fires before they catch and spread. Some people smell the smoke that was almost there. Silver lining stuff is usually hokey “stop feeling bad, it’s bad to feel bad” shit. I feel like shit so much and I just keep it to myself cus I worry it’ll just make things that much worse if I let it out. But… I’d rather recognize horrible things being said. Sometimes you find someone who recognizes it too. Then you go and drink and complain with them and maybe it feels better?? I hope??? I don’t know, I’m still working on it…






  • but what about the inverse? How might we use them, too?

    Encourage spiritual scholarship - like, “hey, they’re trying to use our own beliefs to trick us, so let’s study up and expose the fraudsters”. Spiritualism, religious practices, even lower-case ‘o’ “occultism” (haven’t got a better word for it, sorry) – these are as much a part of shared culture as this or that film franchise or book series or local sports team or music genera. Yankeedom doesn’t like talking about belief and that’s bullshit. A religious reference can be just as clarifying to a discussion as a film reference or talking about systems like mechanics in a game.

    And there is a spiritual component to people’s feelings - this sense of bigger things, of being a part of something even while we’re distinct. Denying that or treating it as taboo is silly. I’m agnostic but I won’t deny feeling spiritual things. But I also won’t limit myself to a single set of cultural explanation. Any materialist movement that actually wants to help people shouldn’t avoid the spiritual. It should treat it carefully and with respect, though.