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I’m an Australian woman, based in Meanjin / Brisbane, but in love with Argentina. In a previous life, I was a Trans activist, runner, and Roller Derby player. Now that we are all “post” covid, I feel like I’m still somehow finding my feet, and working out what I want to keep from my old life, and what I want to add to it! I have the feeling I will never get a final answer :)
I’m co-adminof blahaj.zone and our various instances.
I can also be found on matrix at ada:chat.blahaj.zone
Estoy aprendiendo español y a veces mi toots estará en mal español!
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Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Transgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone•How should we treat Imperfect Allies?32·3 days agoThe issue is, there are a large amount of people "JAQ"ing off (Just Asking Questions), sealioning and trolling. And no amount of engagement and discussion with those folk will change their minds, because they’re not open to that. And worse than that, it also normalises the idea that trans rights, trans identities etc are up for debate. So these sorts of engagements do harm, by making folk more comfortable airing “mild” anti trans opinions.
And of course, not everyone engaging in these discussions and topics is doing so in bad faith. Some people can be turned around. But research has shown that even when folk are acting in good faith, they still have a tendency to double down on harmful opinions when challenged, because facts don’t change minds. Emotions do. So until we can know the outcome before engagement, we’re more likely to make things worse than better.
And that’s why on blahaj.zone, it’s a non starter. Blahaj zone communities are intended to be safe spaces, where folk can get away from discussions about whether we deserve the same rights as other folk, and whether our identities are real, and whether it’s ok to exclude us from parts of society. We explicitly do not have the goal of educating people, because that is a huge emotional burden, that doesn’t really pay off most of the time.
If you want to change minds, the ways to do it are in the immediate social circles around you. The people that know you are the most likely to be “brought around” and they will be brought around by you simply existing on their radar, and making emotional space for you. The other way to do it is social friction. Protests, shutdowns, pushbacks etc. These are especially effective when they come from allies. Basically, when you make a social context in which trans discriminatory positions have negative repercussions, people are less likely to voice those opinions, and the opinions are less likely to be normalised.
The goal of blahaj.zone spaces is to create exactly that social context. And honestly, I think that banning someone who holds misinformed, but harmful opinions is more likely to change their mind, than a civil debate. It’s a low chance either way, but at least banning them sends a clear message.
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•What are some of your euphoria stories?7·4 days agoI’m not sure I get much of it anymore. I think it’s more a lack of dysphoria. I still get moments of dysphoria, and moments of euphoria, but they feel like part of the background hum of life, rather than at the forefront
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Blahaj Lemmy Meta@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Web UI is very slow to load and then only partially loads3·6 days ago@oftheair I don’t know what is going wrong with the UI recently. You can access it through apps or alternative front ends until we get to the bottom of it.
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Fediverse@lemmy.ml•I have an idea for to prevent broken links from Lemmy instances that shutting down4·8 days ago@moseschrute That could also be done at the client level
@DiaDeLosMuertos I mean, you didn’t just pick one of the reasons, you got them all! You definitely deserve a prize!
You’re not getting one, but you deserve one!
Why am I not in bed?
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Science Memes@mander.xyz•you don't know how good you've got it, kid4·9 days ago@A_Union_of_Kobolds I mean, it depends
The Great Egret is from the genus Ardea, which is a genus of herons…
But, the White Faced Heron is from the genus Egretta, which are egrets…
Egrets resist the boxes we want to put them in :P
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Science Memes@mander.xyz•you don't know how good you've got it, kid6·9 days agoSpecifically, it’s a Little Blue Heron
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Science Memes@mander.xyz•you don't know how good you've got it, kid1·9 days agodeleted by creator
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Science Memes@mander.xyz•you don't know how good you've got it, kid4·9 days agoWait until you encounter the folk that call them egrets!
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Linux@programming.dev•CachyOS July 2025 Ships With Mesa Patched For Anti-Lag, Plasma Defaulting To Wayland2·12 days ago@lambda I had been using arch for a while, and didn’t want to leave the rolling distro format, but I wanted to try something new. Initially, it was mostly their pre optimised repositories (and the fact they include some popular AUR packages in their optimised repos). But I also came to appreciate their reconfiguration of things like fish and snapper as really good starting points.
Dificilisimo. Spanish word meaning very difficult. I just love the way it sounds though.
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Linux@programming.dev•CachyOS July 2025 Ships With Mesa Patched For Anti-Lag, Plasma Defaulting To Wayland2·12 days ago@lambda Yep, it’s been my daily driver for close to two years now.
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Linux@programming.dev•CachyOS July 2025 Ships With Mesa Patched For Anti-Lag, Plasma Defaulting To Wayland10·12 days agoIt’s arch, but with optimised binaries, pre bundled apps, and pre configured gaming, performance and aesthetic configs for common apps and DEs
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Shows that were only popular in your country?1·13 days agoChris Lilley was always a shitty comedian that relied on racism and blackface. I never understood why everyone loved him
Or just one?
The only thing I remember about that show was the little “Cheez TV” ditty/jingle thing
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Space@mander.xyz•'Space ice' is less like water than previously thought2·18 days agoSink = go down
Float = go upSomething with the same density as the fluid it’s contained in won’t spontaneously do either of those things
Ada@friend.blahaj.zoneto Australia@aussie.zone•South Australia considers requiring home developers to build larger parking garages1·19 days agoPor que no los dos?
This sort of thing is why I’m excited! That’s from the Insta 360 website, showing an older device that let you strap a 360 camera to a drone. It was unreliable, and they quietly dropped the product line, but when you see things like this, you can see what the potential of a well done 360 drone is!
All of the original content was shot in 360 degree video, and then reframed in post processing.
tube.blahaj.zone/w/9t1YXM9cge7…