Aw man, sorry you’re going through that. It sounds like you both just really need some space to calm down and process. I also get very snappy/aggro and tend to start fights when I’m anxious. I’ve pushed my partner away during health scares as well (I’m in therapy and always apologize after tho) When I do, it’s never actually about my partner. It’s me feeling anxious, wanting space, feeling guilty about receiving help and wanting to pull away and isolate to deal with my emotions. Don’t take it personally and it’s perfectly normal to snap back at someone when they’re being a bit of an ass. You didn’t do anything wrong. Hopefully your partner just needs some space to calm down.

Also, when you’re both in a good headspace, it may be helpful to ask about why they want their mom to help them instead. He might be subconsciously guilty and not wanting to burden you.

Sounds like habitat restoration to me 😁

Yep, I just spent months agonizing over choosing a school program. I think our bodies tell us what we need if we listen. I was set on the “safe” choice, but as the registration deadline got closer I got more and more depressed and wasn’t sure why. I came home one day and just collapsed on my bed and started sobbing because it didn’t feel like “me” and I couldn’t see myself being happy doing that for the rest of my life. But I didn’t even realize how much I didn’t want to do the program until it got so bad I couldn’t control my emotions. I was trying really hard to force myself to be excited about the safe route but I just couldn’t do it. I think our bodies tell us what we need. I was ignoring the twist in the pit of my stomach, ignoring how drained I felt learning the subject, ignoring the subconscious procrastination and lack of focus. I switched my program to what I really wanted to do and p much immediately felt relief. I feel aligned with myself, excited to start classes, feeling good about the job prospects and the types of people I’ll get to be around. I literally feel lighter.

Some other people have made really good comments and suggestions about how to figure out what your gut is telling you. It’s a bit morbid, but I like to pretend I’m old and on my death bed looking back at my life. How would I feel about the decisions I’m making right now? Will I regret not going for the harder thing I want more? Will I be happy to take the safe route? Did I waste my precious time that’s now ending? Etc etc

oooo I should try a fig tree too. I didn’t even know that dwarf citrus was even a thing but I def need to look into them more.

I’ve been lucky enough to avoid physical limitations so far, but I’ve done a lot of long-term travelling. Are you craving a bike tour specifically, or is part of it wanting to be nomadic/outside/survival mode for awhile? You can always go rubber tramping/dirtbagging with a vehicle, stay at campgrounds and bring a bike with you to go for shorter rides. Hell if you can walk decent and wanna get real rugged, there’s always hitchhiking. I’ve met plenty of haggard old men with injuries and lives full of manual labor and drug abuse who are still getting around. There’s a million ways to travel.

Ugghh right 🥴 I really like tracketpacer on Tiktok, she’s a network engineer and does lots of memes. Senegodess Tech on YouTube does more general career videos, “day in the life” type stuff but she’s fun to listen to. Oh and Julia Evans has lots of cute zines, some of them free, explaining computer science stuff. I listened to an interview with her and you can tell how excited she is to talk about 'puters and her love for them is infectious.

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It’s all in notebooks still, I think I’ll eventually make a Neocities page on it. I think WorldAnvil gets used a lot but it’s more than I need rn. The comic is Wash-Run tho. Ty for asking! Do you have your music online anywhere?

I like writing, drawing, painting, making comics, and I wanna get into Blender and game dev eventually. I have a big worldbuilding project that I have lots of other projects nested into. I have a webcomic that takes place in a small part of the big world, and sometimes I do paintings of the other areas that aren’t in the comic. It’s great because it’s just filled with everything I’m interested in, and when there’s a new interest, it gets thrown in there too :) I like traditional painting and only do digital for editing the colors cus I already stare at a computer screen all day for work, and then for gaming. Need a few hobbies that aren’t on a screen 😓 I make my comic with sharpies and coffee, and like acrylic paint the best.

Oooo thank you !

Thank you!! I also found 2 girls one podcast, it’s a lot of internet culture stuff and they have an episode about Lemmy

Thank you for so many suggestions and taking the time to write up descriptions, really appreciate it 😊

Oo this looks great, thank you!

I’m specifically interested in the overlooked history and perspectives of women, LGBT folks, POC and disabled people in tech though. Ofc not all tech podcasts should be political, I’m just interested in those things and am having trouble finding related media. I’ve stumbled on more right-leaning stuff while browsing Spotify though. I just don’t wanna get jump scared by homophobia.

Darknet Diaries is great, I think I got a little turned off by how the host and a guest were talking about camgirls on an episode. Like it was framed as the patrons deserved privacy and protection, but not the sex workers. I haven’t listened to the other one but I’ll give it a try!

I’m still pretty new into looking, this post was inspired by listening to Self-Hosted and one of the hosts has a “news” podcast and one of the more recent episodes was recommending other creators, which were like Megyn Kelly and right wing people :( There were also a few YouTubers that I tried to get into to learn networking but some of them had rant videos about women and stuff. I maybe could have worded it as also like…not corporate-worshipping codebro type podcasts? If that makes sense. There seems to be a lot of libertarian types in computer networking and I just wanted some recommendations by people who have been listening longer than I have.

I’m playing a heavily modded Fallout 4. I got a mod where you can start more like a regular RPG and choose your backstory and where you start, and all of the dialogue relating to Sean has been taken out. It’s great, way more fun. My character is a drunk who washed up on Nordhagen beach and is living with the settlers and killing raiders for them and building them a nice house :)

But did you have access to a computer to teach yourself on? A lot of people don’t.

I think some of it is, not even being “tech illiterate”, but people are just tired and want to do other things. The average person is coming home from work already exhausted, needs to spend time with their partner or kids, take care of the house, etc etc. I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to tinker with setting up servers and learning to make websites and all the other stuff (I’m still learning it too). It’s a lot, especially if you don’t already have a solid foundation. Anything super complex that requires a lot of setup just isn’t accessible for most people. It’s not a lack of ability, but a lack of time and energy.

I do agree about the elitist attitude though. As much as tech people complain about non-tech people, we need them when we eat the food they grew, or they fix our car, or the plumbing in our house. Someone not caring enough to learn new skills because they’re good with the ones they already have is okay and it doesn’t make someone dumb. That’s why they just want to pay someone else to deal with it. I don’t understand how industrial agricultural machinary works but I still eat because there’s people who do. And that’s okay :)