It’s precisely because the norms demarcating gender are so arbitrary that they must be policed so ruthlessly
Can we fundraiser to put this on billboards everywhere?
Aww, thanks comrade
the norms demarcating gender are so arbitrary
BEWARE: An object’s ability to reflect certain wavelengths of light has the direct effect of permanently altering your child’s gender identity with repeat exposure.
That’s why you’re not supposed to look at the sun, it’s too much concentrated gender
As a goth with translucent skin you learn to avoid the sun, I avoid the sun like the plague lol
But think of all the gender you’re missing out on, you could be like a queer kryptonian
I mean I started trans femme, and recently realised trans femme non binary (transbian enby) :) I absorb the darkness instead it’s what fuels me. That and I burn easily lol
I worked at a GameStop briefly. One time had a lady customer ask me if we could exchange a game in a Wii box for a PS2 box since her son in the military might think the white box is too feminine
“Why, is he not proud of his Wii?”
This shit makes me so mad, even more so because I know that if I ever raised a son I couldnt stop other people from conditioning him this way
most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv
providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful
Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered “only girls paint their nails” and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children
As a parent of little kids I am now one million percent convinced all of this gendered “girls naturally like pink and ponies and boys naturally like blue and dinos” is utter nonsense. I try as best I can to just let my kids explore whatever they want and they do not fall along any of these gendered lines.
But ultimately, it feels like a losing battle since everyone in my life (partner included) as well as all of society is fighting against me on this. As my kids have gotten older I can already see how they are
fallingbeing pushed into gendered interests. But I know it’s not some organic interest. I can draw the lines and point to how they get so much societal push on these things.This is why a few more radical parents dont reveal their childrens AGAB to others. It comes with its own set of challenges, I’m sure, but I sure wish I had a little more space from cisnormativity growing up
“Oh yeah yeah you’re right Sharon, play food is for women and the gay, OK here.” drops loaded snubnosed revolver on the counter
That gun is too short for boys, it’s small and girly and gay
Okay but can we talk about hot pink 9mm pistols? When you want to kill but you want to he femme about it
All of the extremely pink sporterised Mosins and shit… even random .22 boltguns… I just cannot…
No they aren’t and I see this shit all the time at work. Dudes always pull up with their big ass pickup trucks bragging about how big and intimidating their car is. Refuse to touch electric cars or anything smaller than an SUV because “only queers and women drive those”
No they aren’t and I see this shit all the time at work. Dudes always pull up with their big ass pickup trucks bragging about how big and intimidating their car is. Refuse to touch electric cars or anything smaller than an SUV because “only queers and women drive those”
ZYBERTRUKKK™ is being marketed specifically to those insecure dudebro nerds… and they’re buying it.
Reminds me of how weird my mom was when I said I wanted a strawberry cake for my birthday because it was pink. I just liked strawberry, I didn’t care what color it was.
truly wild the extent to which people are policed on innocuous things like this. I remember when kids at school decided that liking bears was girly and boys could only like reptiles
could she just like… make it like blue razzberry flavor but with strawberry?
I dunno, just one of those early things that didn’t make sense to me as a kid. But then I did turn out to be kinda gay and genderqueer but I don’t think pink frosting had anything to do with it. Or maybe it did 🤔
They’re putting chemicals in the pink frosting to turn the boys gay
I had some relatives question a woodland theme to toys and bedding for a baby boy. Lots of green and brown, plus some snails, rabbits, deer and shit.
CW hunting
In the end they rationalized it by saying they guess he can be a hunter. Now I’m wondering how many of the hunters I know just want to go camping but feel like it’s too feminine if they aren’t trying to kill anything
Fellas, is it gay to appreciate nature?
fellas is it gay to experience joy
“Gay” did originally just meant “joy,” so the answer is yes.
Something something survival something something wilderness idk
What about Tarzan? Boy Scouts? Camping? Fucking hell, call it a dopamine detox and it’s masculine enough. This shit’s crazy. What, does it need tar and asphalt to be masculine? If you have too much tar and asphalt, you’re too removed from nature and you must retvrn because city living has rotted your teeth and made you like EDM.
do boy like coloring
This one seems weird even by cis people standards
the standards are pretty weird and contradictory especially around the edges
for example it is unmasculine to be too educated but also “girls can’t do maths”. Women can’t learn fractions but must be excelent cooks
both institutional sexism against female artists and “is it ok for a boy to like colouring”
for everything else the gender binary standards are they are also self contradictory gibberish
Food math is fucking hard. It’s also not standardized, sometimes assumes all liquids have the same weight by volume as water etc. This is more of a professional thing than a home thing but twice a year I’ve gotta do food costing which means converting all this normal cooking shorthand to grams while making a typical version of each item so we know how much of how much goes into each so the cost can be broken down. On menu changes the other parts of the year i usually have to do the opposite and convert weight by gram based ingredient measurements to something people can use. The number crunching here can be something else. Me and a pal who are both very good at working through data made a streamlined formula, he’s a former geologists and I’m an attempted geographer who is good at statistics, it still took some real ass effort between us. It was worth it cause we have a system down for each time and I can’t complain a whole lot more than I normally do, he’s a good dude who gave me a DS9 model kit out of the blue who actually has this responsibility while being paid what I do cause I can encourage he get a raise when I demand mine frequently but he’s gotta come forward about it. I have his authority in a practical though non official sense and none of the responsibility, if I didn’t make his life easier I’d be a bad person.
By chance do you do a lot of baking?
Used to be a baker. Now we do some. It’s an Italian restaurant and our main thing is pizzas. It’s fairly upscale and we do our dough and bread from scratch. When I was a baker I basically had to invent recipes myself cause the previous guy quit right as I came in and took everything with him. I hacked a lot of it out freestyle until I had solid recipes that i then followed like a religion unless I was feeling crafty
Women can’t learn fractions but must be excelent cooks
But also professional cooks are generally men
it is unmasculine to be too educated but also “girls can’t do maths”
Nothing cranks my tractor quite as quickly as the idea of some over-educated soyjack complaining about a problem only for the wise redneck sage who Tells It Like It Is™ after a hard career of Making the Hard Decisions™ to come in and hit the TV with a wrench or turn it to W for Wumbo. It’s so thought terminating and can easily and often be unhelpful.
there’s also a class aspect to that (social not economic) as those standards don’t exist for the upper class. Their masculinity doesn’t demand ignorance
I can believe that, but I’m having a hard time envisioning what you’re saying. Can you give me an example please?
almost certainly not the best example but dennis prager comes to mind for me. he’s a manly man that smokes cigars and dresses in suits and what have you but he’s also so “educated” that he’s “qualified” to be an “educator”.
boys who go to schools that were founded by Edward the 1st aren’t shamed for poetry
Yeah that just sounds like somebody who doesn’t know anything about kids
The dumb thought process is coloring -> creating art -> being an artist -> artists are gay -> being gay is effeminate
I used to work for a sports merchandise store and I regularly had women ask me if it was okay for their husbands to wear teal jerseys.
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Your husband will not explode if he puts on a Jaguars or Mariners jersey.
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I love that my queer ass is the authority on cis-het masculinity. Like, yeah dude, teal is a manly color now. In fact, no one is talking about it, but so is fuchsia. Have you considered buying him a breast cancer awareness jersey?
The San Jose Sharks are gay as hell, apparently.
Hockey men make me feel gay as hell, so there might be something there
BUt also!
San Jose has no fucking buisness having a hockey team. There’s no ice. A hockey team on the west coast is just a flex that your city has at least 1 billionaire from the Midwest living in it.
fuchsia
Fuchsia = Koga’s gym = Poison types = Feminine fighting style = Gay
Sorry
call me gay all you want, it won’t cleanse Toxic
[Attack misses]
[Takes 7/16 of HP in toxic damage]
[Faints]
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