• JohnBrownNote [comrade/them, des/pair]@hexbear.net
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    11 months ago

    body count could be loosely associated with STI risk but if you’re hooking up same night, you’re implicitly waiving any potential right to a screening.

    i’d prefer to know what i’m working with ahead of time and i’m stopping at second base if i don’t like what’s in your pants but whatever standard of disclosure we have needs to first and foremost be about the safety of trans people.

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      11 months ago

      i’m stopping at second base if i don’t like what’s in your pants

      Somehow I don’t think that many of us are waiting until things get hot and heavy to discuss our anatomy if it applies, since that frequently results in us getting fucking killed. Pretty sure this is more of a, ‘post op perfectly passing trans woman DIDNT TELL HIM!!!1!’ scenario, because it’s not like chuds & terfs acknowledge any other kind of real trans person.

      t4t

        • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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          11 months ago

          Reliable assumption: some kind of nonexistent boogeyman. This case is an exception however, because if you are a passing trans woman with a vag, there is obviously no requirement to tell anybody about your gender, and given the option many trans people would likely happily skip the “discussing my gender with a guy who might kill me” component of a hookup, which is a valid choice and where this comes from.