As a man, I think it’s more subtle and difficult to pick up on, for me anyway. But I’ve been doing the gym for almost a decade and it shows. I’ve got blond hair and blue eyes and a strong jaw. Once I started dating I was basically never single for longer than a few months. And so, on some level I know I’m doing alright for myself and I’m sure that gives me a privilege that others don’t have. Like others have said, I’m not a model (I have a friend that’s a model and an amateur bodybuilder, I know what truly good looking guys look like haha), but I’ve got pretty privilege, I think.

But I can’t really give like concrete examples, outside of how blessed my dating life has been obviously, of how some time I noticed I got something just because of my looks. It’s like trying to have a fish explain how water affects their life, it’s just always been around and you don’t think about it. But I know, from reading theory and what not, this world is built for cis het white guys like me, and it’s even better if you’re easy on the eyes, and I have benefited enormously from that. So academically, I know the water gives me oxygen, gives me a medium through which I move and benefits me, but hell if I could ever truly expand on that.