I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else

My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.

I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right

Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.

Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/

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    Everytime cis white male coworkers think only cis white men are listening the things they say blows my mind.

    Like admitting to cheating, sexist comments, racism, transphobia etc.

    I remember hearing one guy boast about installing a tracking app on his girlfriends phone.

    You know what women coworkers say when they think men aren’t listening?

    “My boyfriend said I was getting fat, I need to lose weight.” -Actual thing a woman coworker has said to me

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      I’m not even white. But conservative/libertarian white guys (and sometimes non white guys) will start telling their insane views and complaints within like 2 days of knowing me. It must be because I’m Asian because sometimes they’ll lower their voice and look behind their back at a room full of other white people/conservatives before turning back to me and saying some stupid bullshit. Like dog I got small eyes, and that’s enough for you to assume that I agree with your annoying ass 💀

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      yup, why the heck are these guys talking to me about how they ‘manage’ their wives/girlfriends?? and why suggest i do that stuff when i mention some troubles i have in my relationship???