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  • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
    16·
    9 months ago

    T-minus 6 days until I age up once more. Boring age, the only thing I’ll do is enrol to vote (which I could do now anyway if I wanted to), but it does mean I’m almost at less than a year until I become an adult which is really terrifying, although I guess somewhat good

    I’ve spent so fucking long just trying to figure out how to make it to tomorrow that trying to make actual plans on how I’m meant to live, and what I’m meant to do with my life is scary and foreign and makes no sense. I did receive permission to stay at my current place past 18 (they only do that on a case by case basis - the standard is you get kicked out the day before you turn 18). But that’s not an indefinite offer. I’ll get at most a year before they really will just boot me out the door

    I actually do have a rough idea of what I want to do by the end of my life, but it’s the ~8 years between moving out and being able to begin my plans I don’t know what to do with. I’ve got some things happening work wise, but nothing consistent and reliable so I guess that’s the first thing I need to tackle.

    I did find out that there are actually options for when I move out/get kicked out, though. There’s various community housing organisations focussed specifically on people exiting care which I can use. I’m also on the NDIS so that can help with a limited number of things too. My old plan was that I was going to save up enough money to buy a car, and then I was just going to live in that because I genuinely thought I was just going to be homeless.

    And to be depressingly honest, although I’ve been thinking about this since I entered care when I was 11, I didn’t really think I was going to be alive by my 18th birthday for most of those years. It’s only really after moving into lead tenant I’ve started to think that life isn’t so bad, and maybe I can do it every day for the next 60 years

    • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
      10·
      9 months ago

      This sounds like you’ve given this a LOT of thought. Saving up is never a bad thing as it gives you more options, and a buffer against disaster - you’ve already seen a lot of us here whinging about sudden large expenses. The world is opening up to you in many ways, and you’ve got a lot of power over how life is going to be. I am confident that you’ll make a success of the busyness of living.

      • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
        3·
        8 months ago

        Not a lot of useful problem solving though, mainly unproductive, stressful, panic attack inducing thoughts

        Having power about how my life will be is also really stressful. I’ve got a couple of decisions to make that’ll affect the next decade of my life at least, and I’m not a big fan of this whole “decisions you make now affect the entire rest of your life” thing

        • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
          4·
          8 months ago

          Fully agree. The whole decisions you make now thing is plainly ridiculous. Life has this habit of cancelling all one’s plans and then dealing out a u-turn. I’ve had at least half a dozen of these, probably more when I think about it. I am a big fan of having a Plan A, a Plan B if Plan A doesn’t work, and a few more plans depending on circumstances. I’ve lived my life re-thinking my options pretty much every few years. I suspect the real trick of doing this without unnecessary stress is to accept that this is so, and always will be so. And to stop worrying about it. Easy to say, hard to do. Having an accurate reckoning of one’s skills, talents and resources is a very good platform to base planning on. Also a good idea to keep a weather eye out for new opportunities as and when these arise. Nothing is predictable. Resilience is key.

          • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
            4·
            8 months ago

            Having just thrown my own life plan out the window to do a full re-write I completely agree with this. I think the key is to treat your plans as options you can choose to follow or not instead of contracts that bind you to a course of action. The process of coming up with your plans also tends to give you the knowledge to see other oportunities when they arise and it is important to be flexible enough to take those oportunities when they come along.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      4·
      8 months ago

      I stupidly left my bedroom window open during the day and it just won’t cool down. So tonight is gonna be in the lounge I guess

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          2·
          8 months ago

          I promised to take my niece to Ballarat to visit my cousin so god help me. The aircon better be good on the vline. First train is at 8:14.

          I just need to remember to close the windows and give the plants another drink before I leave this time. Might set the aircon to run on eco at 25C on a timer from 10am to 5pm so the lounge remains cool upon my return, it’s reverse cycle so hopefully I won’t need to sell a body part to pay my electricity bills.

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    10·
    9 months ago

    Had a lovely time last night because my bestie came back to Melbourne for a week and we actually caught up this time! She came over for dinner with another old friend of mine and it’s been sooo long since we spoke, when we used to catch up every week. I miss my old crew 😢

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    9·
    9 months ago

    After carefully mapping out plans and goals for my future and working out finances and lots of other things with those plans in mind Life has now interceded and turned everything upside down 🤣

    It looks like instead of staying where I am living now and moving in probably 10-12 years I will be moving very soon - probably within the year! Which is a positive thing, but it means there are a whole lot of things I though I had a decade to think about and organise that I need to work out now, and all my plans for the garden etc. need to be completely changed. My head is spinning thinking about all of the changes and things that need to be done. I think the next year is going to be very stressful, but once it is all sorted a lot of the long term stressors will be gone - Including the neighbour with the blackberry thicket and overgrowing trees!

  • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
    8·
    9 months ago

    PSA: do not go near Preston market. I have just returned and this had to be one of the most unpleasant experiences I have ever had there. Tomorrow will be just as bad I reckon. All the fruit & veg are looking wilted and distinctly sub-par, but the prices are still up there with colesworth. And I would not touch the chocolate with a barge pole - would probably collapse into a puddle. Avoid avoid avoid. All stocked up now for the weekend fortunately.

  • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
    8·
    9 months ago

    I’ve got a migraine so I’ve had some icy poles and fruit delivered. I feel so ridiculous lol. Grateful that the service exists though.

  • bull⚡@aussie.zoneEnglish
    8·
    9 months ago

    Just waiting at the local barbers and saw one dude sit down and show the hairdresser a photo of what he wants, but the photo was of a model with way more hair than he has lol

    He was genuine too. This please. Thank you.

  • Peddlephile@lemm.ee
    8·
    9 months ago

    Woke up to the sound of some nutter with his hand on the horn speeding down my 40km/h residential street. Somebody obviously got up on the wrong side of the bed and is dragging the rest of us down with them! 😤

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      4·
      9 months ago

      And I went shopping and someone was coming to a speed hump, that has markings but wasn’t a crossing and walked right in front of my car and then flipped me off as if I was the one in the wrong.

      20 meters on either side of the speed hump were pedestrian crossings.

      I swear the heat makes people do funny and stupid things.

      • Cendana@aussie.zone
        3·
        9 months ago

        Two days ago in Kensington, just picked up my wife. Streets were narrow, parked cars on left, and a bit of space on the right to pass. Stopped in the middle of the road so an oncoming guy in a white Ford Territory could pass on my right.

        “Fucking idiot”