The first says, "become the antagonistic dyke that you are. Cut your hair shortish and weirdlike, and dye it blue and pink or something’. The other wolf is my ten years’ progress of growing my hair out. It’s long enough to go just past my ass now and it’s incredible, but the urge to do something funny with it arises when it causes sensory issues, or gets caught under my wife or something.
ngl after 3 years of growing my hair out and barely getting it down most of my shoulder blades, i’m jealous of this, but i also relate hard to the wish for more antagonistic dykeness
I listened to the first voice and I’m mostly happy with it. I definitely lost the instant femininity buff of mid-back-length hair, but also anyone reading my brightly colored hair and shullet as manly isn’t worth my cares anyways.
plus it’s pretty cool to have the haircut I picked as being fem-yet-dykish vindicated by Kristen Stewart having the same haircut in that new A24 lesbian movie, Love Lies Bleeding (which I’m definitely going to watch soon™).
but definitely do your own thing! sacrificing several years’ growth for the sake of a crazy haircut is certainly a big choice; I just wanted to let you know it’s possible to come out the other side and still feel pretty damn feminine.
why does hair length even affect this, gender is a fucking psyop
I mean, for me in particular, it’s partially loss of hair length and partially the fact I went for an aggressive side fade, which is either masc- or dyke-coded, depending how you look at it. but yeah it’s bullshit that, like, long hair is feminine and short hair is masculine.
it’s also worth noting that as an enby I don’t particularly want to be read as a woman, but it’s complicated bc, as a transfem enby, I’d absolutely rather be read as a woman than as a man. like if people are gonna misgender me I’d rather it be away from my AGAB, if that makes sense?
NNNNNOOOOOO BUT YOUR NATURAL HAIR IS SO PWETTY
yo literally same, comments since cut + dye have basically been a split between “yo that’s fucking awesome” and “noooo your hair was so beautiful and full” – but like, the first option is mostly from fellow queers and the second is mostly from straights, which makes me feel vindicated as hell.
You can always do strange things with braiding and hair jewelry! There are dykes and butches with medium and long hair. For example the protagonist from Bound is an antagonistic butch with shorter-medium hair. It’s not buzzed or anything!
Inside me, there are two wolves…
The first says, "become the antagonistic dyke that you are. Cut your hair shortish and weirdlike, and dye it blue and pink or something’. The other wolf is my ten years’ progress of growing my hair out. It’s long enough to go just past my ass now and it’s incredible, but the urge to do something funny with it arises when it causes sensory issues, or gets caught under my wife or something.
Really I wanna be able to swap on the fly…
ngl after 3 years of growing my hair out and barely getting it down most of my shoulder blades, i’m jealous of this, but i also relate hard to the wish for more antagonistic dykeness
You might get here after growing your hair for six more years :) there’s gotta be a solution that’s both long hair-ish and antagonistic dyke-ish…
Wolf cut that reaches down to the ass in the back?
Perhaps…
I listened to the first voice and I’m mostly happy with it. I definitely lost the instant femininity buff of mid-back-length hair, but also anyone reading my brightly colored hair and shullet as manly isn’t worth my cares anyways.
plus it’s pretty cool to have the haircut I picked as being fem-yet-dykish vindicated by Kristen Stewart having the same haircut in that new A24 lesbian movie, Love Lies Bleeding (which I’m definitely going to watch soon™).
but definitely do your own thing! sacrificing several years’ growth for the sake of a crazy haircut is certainly a big choice; I just wanted to let you know it’s possible to come out the other side and still feel pretty damn feminine.
Noooooo my instant femininity buff
why does hair length even affect this, gender is a fucking psyop 
Part of the issue too is, whenever I suggest this people go “NNNNNOOOOOO BUT YOUR NATURAL HAIR IS SO PWETTY” which yes, it is, but Idk sometimes…
I mean, for me in particular, it’s partially loss of hair length and partially the fact I went for an aggressive side fade, which is either masc- or dyke-coded, depending how you look at it. but yeah it’s bullshit that, like, long hair is feminine and short hair is masculine.
it’s also worth noting that as an enby I don’t particularly want to be read as a woman, but it’s complicated bc, as a transfem enby, I’d absolutely rather be read as a woman than as a man. like if people are gonna misgender me I’d rather it be away from my AGAB, if that makes sense?
yo literally same, comments since cut + dye have basically been a split between “yo that’s fucking awesome” and “noooo your hair was so beautiful and full” – but like, the first option is mostly from fellow queers and the second is mostly from straights, which makes me feel vindicated as hell.
It’s not a perfect solution but you could get a wig if you get a short cut! Swapping is possible! You can even get a wig made from your own hair.
make a punk cool haircut that’s short or spiked up
You can always do strange things with braiding and hair jewelry! There are dykes and butches with medium and long hair. For example the protagonist from Bound is an antagonistic butch with shorter-medium hair. It’s not buzzed or anything!