Are you radically different than your younger self? Are there key elements that have stayed the same? Most parts? Do you feel as if you’ve followed the “roadmap of life” or forged your own path? Have there been “chapters” or do things all sort of slide into one contiguous flow? Share what you’d like!

  • StaySquared@lemmy.mlEnglish
    8·
    3 months ago

    Having kids = crappy sleep

    Feel like I aged an additional 10 years. Not good for someone to wake up 3-4 times a night, then go to work and have to ingest caffeine to keep awake. Wish I had my kids 10 years earlier.

    • cashmaggot@piefed.socialOP
      5·
      3 months ago

      Big hugs =(!

      While I don’t have kids, I did live next to methheads for a good chunk of change and they wrecked my sleep and I think they made my brains go further cuckoo and for sure aged me up. Sleep is such an integral part of existing, I hope they calm down soon and you get some solid zzzs. Perhaps naps might help? I am not sure, and I don’t know how much you take care of - or if a partner is in the picture - and how much they take care of? But either way I’m sorry it sucks so much. I hear it’s worth it big picture =)

      • stiephelando@discuss.tchncs.de
        2·
        3 months ago

        I have an amazing wife and we share responsibility for our two kids. My 3y old sleeps well for the most part and our 1y old will get there, too.

        • cashmaggot@piefed.socialOP
          1·
          3 months ago

          Hey, that’s pretty cool. I am not sure at what age things get better but at least you’ll be out of the woods at some point? Do your kids share a room? Cause I was the oldest, but nightmares would always lead to us calming each other down and I was happy to be in close proximity when I was younger. It kinda helped in a “pack-mentality” sort of way. Cause no boogieman would dare take multiple children, but alone? You’re dead!

          I hope you guys have your ways to find rest =)

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      2·
      3 months ago

      Chances are you would have been a worse parent 10 years earlier; full of energy, but not enough experience to know how to parent well, and perhaps harboring a secret resentment for crushed dreams.

      10 years later, those dreams are already achieved/crushed and those kids are the next big project in your life that you can pay full attention to. When you’re caffeinated, of course.

    • oldfart@lemm.ee
      2·
      3 months ago

      Yeah I got old man’s habits after having no energy for the same reason as you. Save that sweet energy whenever you can.