And to single nyets, are you in the “move-in together as soon as you can afford to” camp, or “delay it even when you already can coz reasons” camp?

Living habits play a huge role in cohabitating happily in the long term personally. Having fun and enjoying each other’s company won’t have much mileage if you can’t stand each other’s living habits!

For some, you may live together way longer than you’d be in love with each other even >.>

Sharing a home together also gives you an idea on how responsible, proactive, clean and how well they manage and balance chores, duties, and time together. In my (limited) experience, most people who has never lived on their own, generally do not take the initiative or have the know how to fix, improve and maintain a house. I suppose that’s not important for some… but for me who’s always taken care of her own space and prioritises on efficiency, I have my way of doing things and living together first can help us optimise ourselves to each other, or it can also highlight just how incompatible we might be. If anything, I’d say this is just as important to a relationship as any, if not the most.

So, for you non-single nyets: any inputs? How soon did you guys move in?

  • mrpokealot@monyet.cc
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    1 year ago

    Definitely in the “move-in together as soon as you can afford to”. I think most single people want to be out of their parents house as soon as possible, aside from the reasons you’ve already mentioned. Living with someone is probably one of the biggest shit tests you can give someone. It’s how we learn what we can and cannot accept from a house partner.

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      1 year ago

      probably depends where you live, i’m from country town, guys and gals do not usually move out from parents until after marriage. most traditional families you will even see that the married couple live together with the father’s side, tribal in a sense. most of my newly wed friends are like that too, very little pressure to move out.

      my american uncle in law was a bit shocked to hear that we have such culture here, cause he was essentially kicked out of the house the moment he turned 18…

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            1 year ago

            I need my own space la. Tak tahan my mother who’s constantly being controlling and my father who refuses to do anything himself. Want to cekik them sometimes.