• RubiksIsocahedron@reddthat.com
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    What a fucking pant load. You’re so full of shit, it stinks.

    the majority of folks are just people trying to get by, and if you’re nice enough to them, they’ll be nice enough to you.

    Bullshit. The majority of people want to dominate everyone not in their immediate social circle. Go look up social dominance theory - it will tell you everything you need to know about how people really behave.

    The problem with most terminally online people is that their social lives ended when they left school, which is when the population of arseholes is at its highest. Everybody is trying to impress everybody else, even at the cost of others.

    But a lot of those same people tend to chill off as they mature into adults and become less self-centred. There are still absolutely arsehole adults, but nowhere near as many as the terminally online expect there to be.

    And what magical fucking force forces people to “chill”?

    They don’t. Because that magic doesn’t fucking exist. Only the trauma of punishment makes people stop abusing others. Without the threat of permanent injury on themselves, people will always try to permanently injure others as a means to dominate and control - at least for the sake of their social groups. That desperate need to dominate and control is what makes them human.

    You are spreading self-aggrandizing lies; spreading an infection that will only cause more people to get more “uppity” and beat more innocent people to death. Stop lying about people and apologizing for their bloodlust. People are murderers, hunters for the only “game” still left - forcibly isolated human beings.

    I wasted my entire life being kind to people, only to mock me for being so stupid, so gullible enough to fall for the con that they would be nice back. They beat me like they were mining for ore, driving blow after blow into my skull until it was permanently disfigured, and then they broke every bone in my limbs until they didn’t work anymore.

    Don’t give me this horseshit about how people “chill out” - I did not get almost murdered over fifteen years by people who would simply magically stop being murderous because some timer ran out. No, those motherfuckers murdered as if it was a fucking religious mandate and they are the same type of assholes who tried to take over the U.S. on January 6th.

    No one is ever going to acknowledge my humanity, no matter how kind I am, or what I do. I will always be seen as a “less than” because the ENTIRE human race are malignant narcissists - and there is an entire organization of psychologists and sociologists who reject the pro-human narrative and know exactly how evil people really are. Quit apologizing for rapists and murderers.

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      If this is how you act around other people … I don’t think the problem is other people.

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        This is how I act in response to other people’s abuse. How will you ever learn not to abuse me if I don’t punish you myself? No one else will do it.

        The fact is, it doesn’t matter how I act - you made up your mind to hate me as soon as you found out I exist and crammed me into your “other” pigeonhole. Your reactions are now completely detached from my behavior, and you’ll treat me like shit no matte how kindly I treat you, simply because you now assert I’m infinitely “less than” you. This is how you protect your fragile ego.

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          If this is how you act around other people … I don’t think the problem is other people.

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            Then you’re a fool, manipulated by malignant narcissists, and now you’re on the end of their leash, permanently their tool.

            If I don’t defend myself, you all will succeed in killing me. Treating you better will only convince you I’m stupid enough to fall for your con.

            You’re an enabler of abuse. Piss off, tool.

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              Why are you acting like these people here replying are your direct abusers? We don’t even know you and you are accusing us of trying to murder you.

              Do you not see how insane these words you are saying are?

              I’m sorry your life has been hard and seemingly full of abuse, but we are not those abusers.

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                Why are you acting like these people here replying are your direct abusers?

                Because not only is there nothing stopping them from doing the exact same thing my abusers did, those same abusers will force them to do it, or kill them if they resist. The entirety of society is a hierarchy of abuse - that’s it’s purpose, and enforced with an iron fist if necessary.

                Do you not see how insane these words you are saying are?

                Bullshit. It’s not “insane” - you’re just fucking ignorant and mentally lazy. You’re an enabler, pure and simple.

                I’m sorry your life has been hard and seemingly full of abuse

                No you’re not - as a human being, you’re not capable of being sorry for events that you ultimately benefit from. My social isolation clears the way for you - I cannot compete against you for resources because of being ostracized.

                we are not those abusers.

                You can’t not be those abusers, because you don’t have an alternate source from which to learn other behaviors. Your parents, and everyone of their generation were abusers too - and killed off everyone who wasn’t. No one is left alive to teach you how to not be abusive - that’s why exactly 100% of the people I grew up with abused me; the people who would have supported me are dead.

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          Nobody here abused you and yet you still went on a 4-5 paragraph rant about how shitty they are. You’re the problem.

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      No one is ever going to acknowledge my humanity

      What does that look like to you? People are talking to you right now. I know that no one has said “you are a person” but what specifically do you want?

      Unless you were literally raised by wolves this is some self aggrandizing incel bullshit.

      Coming up with an theory of the world that confirms that you are right and everyone else is terrible is lazy. I don’t think you’ve ever actually cared about anyone but yourself.

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        People are talking to you right now

        You’re talking at me, lying to me and trying to dictate reality to me. You don’t respect me an an equal person - you think of me as an infinite “less than” that you need to dominate with your lies.

        Unless you were literally raised by wolves this is some self aggrandizing incel bullshit.

        I was raised by some of the most abusive people on the planet - enough to be jailed today - and surrounded exclusively by abusive peers.

        I don’t think you’ve ever actually cared about anyone but yourself.

        I did care, but you assholes taught me that caring about people who wanted me dead was a suicide pact. No one ever cared about me - not my parents, not my childhood peers, no school faculty. You motherfuckers demonstrated over fifteen years that my caring would be actively mocked as “stupid” and “retarded” and that I would be punished until I was capable of physically breaking my punishers. You all did that - not me. You all made sure no one would ever care about me, even going so far as to kill yourselves to guarantee it. You are quasi-religious zealots, dedicate to the cause of hate.

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          I was raised by some of the most abusive people on the planet - enough to be jailed today - and surrounded exclusively by abusive peers.

          I’m sorry. Have you considered that they are perhaps not representative of the whole of humanity?

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            Humanity compulsively mirrors the behavior of other people, in order to be accepted by their peers. They have neurons dedicated to this mirroring. Furthermore, people compulsively fight and kill anyone who isn’t exactly like them - which is why my life is in danger, and why there are genocides.

            This results in humanity constantly working to be exactly like one another - both to be accepted, and to avoid being killed. People who fail to do so do not survive, leaving only those who are almost exactly like one another.

            Not to mention that asserting that people aren’t equal is simply bigotry. The only people who don’t think any person is representative of the whole of humanity are white supremacists.

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                  Do you mean murder literally? Like you think if anyone saw you they would literally stab you with any sharp object near by? Or are you taking about a social pressure and systematic oppression that wears you down slowly over time?

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                    Technically both, but they prioritize domination - which includes that “social pressure and systematic oppression” you mentioned. They will kill me, but only because I refuse to be dominated, refuse to submit to my own oppression.

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                    And how do you expect me to act - like a submissive bitch?

                    I’m not your slave; I’m not your property. I will fight tooth-and-nail to protect my liberty.

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              Furthermore, people compulsively fight and kill anyone who isn’t exactly like them

              Citation needed. How is there any diversity at all in the world? Not everyone is exactly the same.

              The only people who don’t think any person is representative of the whole of humanity are white supremacists.

              A sample size of one or a few is never totally representative of billions. Do you think everyone in the world is exactly like Greta Thunberg? People have a huge variety of values and personalities, you can’t boil everyone down to a charcuterie of the particular people you grew up with.

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                Citation needed.

                Uh, every fucking genocide? Read a history book.

                A sample size of one or a few is never totally representative of billions

                My sample size is in the thousands - more than that if you include everyone who has participated in a genocide. Even more if you include every bigot.

                People have a huge variety of values and personalities

                And none of them mean jack shit. You’re bringing up meaningless drivel to support your weak-ass argument.

                you can’t boil everyone down to a charcuterie of the particular people you grew up with.

                The problem - confirmed by my therapists - is that there were exactly zero samples of anyone contrasting.

                A society capable of keeping such people away at all can do so indefinitely. So it doesn’t matter if they ever existed or not - people will keep them away from me forever, simply because they could not live with themselves if they fail.

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                  Uh, every fucking genocide? Read a history book.

                  You’re taking about all of humanity, not just people who have committed genocide. Not everyone on earth has committed genocide.

                  My sample size is in the thousands - more than that if you include everyone who has participated in a genocide. Even more if you include every bigot.

                  Are you only including bad people in your sample? Obviously that would end up skewing the sample towards people being bad. Have you heard of the term representative sample in statistics? That’s how I’m using it.

                  The problem - confirmed by my therapists - is that there were exactly zero samples of anyone contrasting.

                  I’m sorry you haven’t met any non terrible people. I’ve met plenty. I hope you can meet some more people to change that.

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                    Not everyone on earth has committed genocide.

                    But anyone at least supports genocide, at least theoretically.

                    Are you only including bad people in your sample?

                    Not intentionally, but the whole point is that 1) a random sampling obtains no “good” people 2) a thorough search also fails to turn up these mythical “good” people.

                    I hope you can meet some more people to change that.

                    The people I’m surrounded by would never allow that. They are willing to commit genocide to make sure the people they control stay in control.

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          You’re talking at me, lying to me and trying to dictate reality to me.

          Let’s say someone actually wanted to help you. Let’s say they truly believed that going outside and interacting with people in person would do you good. How should such a person express their feelings and try to help while acknowledging you, respecting your humanity, and treating you as of equal value as a human?

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            They wouldn’t last long enough - they’d be murdered, or at least disabled, by the other narcissists in society. Such a person would be an obvious “freak” and face the exact same “punishment” as I have faced my entire life - except they don’t have the experience that I do, and fall for one of their cons. That’s when they’d be killed.

            Narcissists rule this planet with an iron fist. There is no escape, and no effective counter.

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              I would like to act like such a person. How would I do that? (I do want to help you, but I don’t think you would believe me)

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                  Thank you. But I don’t feel the urge to commit suicide. I don’t think the hypothetical person would either.

                  How would you like me to talk to you?

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                    I don’t want you to talk to me - I want you to listen to me and internalize what I teach you. Saying anything back is simply the petulant resistance of a child that won’t eat their vegetables.

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          Are you happy?

          It seems like you are lashing out randomly and have a world view that everything is orchestrated to harm you.

          You all made sure no one would ever care about me, even going so far as to kill yourselves to guarantee it.

          You believe that people have killed themselves to make your life worse? I don’t want to sound mean, but you aren’t the only person.

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            Are you happy?

            No, I’m not a happiness addict. Happiness is not the goal - it’s the failure state. Happiness means I’ve become an abusive monster, like you.

            You believe that people have killed themselves to make your life worse? I don’t want to sound mean, but you aren’t the only person.

            I know. They’ve done the same to and for other people. Bigotry affects millions of people - I’m simply an equal one of those affected.

            I’m simply trying to convince people that I"m an equal one of them, but their bigotry makes them refuse to accept that - just as it does to the equality of many others. The only difference between me and other victims of bigotry is that I don’t belong to a group.

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              Happiness is not the goal - it’s the failure state. Happiness means I’ve become an abusive monster, like you.

              That’s a wild take man. Like what are you talking about? Can you tell me exactly what I’ve done to be an “abusive monster”? Could you elaborate on how happiness is only the result of being abusive?

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                Happiness is like a drug; it is addictive, and “taking” it loses effectiveness over time. This means every person needs to do more extreme things to achieve the same happiness. Eventually, they need to start abusive others in order to achieve the same “high”.

                You may not be actively abusive yet, but you have to quit cold-turkey and run directly away from happiness in order to avoid the grip it will gain on you.

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                  I’m going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don’t believe that’s a unique perspective.

                  I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

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                    I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

                    By definition that’s not possible. Unless you’re accusing me of being incompetent; correct exercise of coping mechanisms cannot make life more difficult because they’re engineered as a ratchet.

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      I wasted my entire life being kind to people

      Sorry, bud - kind people don’t say that. Yes, I’ve been walked all over by assholes, and I’ve been taken advantage of more times than I can count. I’ve been bullied and abused because of my body, and I’ve been made to feel like I don’t deserve to share the same planet with some people, but I’ve also met some amazing people who accept me and love me.

      The whole point of being kind is to be vulnerable, and to help people earnestly and without judgement. Why would I give a shit that some asshole got a leg up because of my effort, or felt bigger by making me feel smaller? If I help 100 jerks and one good person, at the end of the day, I helped a good person, and that makes my whole day, regardless of anything else. That’s how you find the good people in the world, and build your social circle with people who care for you.

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        The whole point of being kind is to be vulnerable, and to help people earnestly and without judgement. Why would I give a shit that some asshole got a leg up because of my effort, or felt bigger by making me feel smaller? If I help 100 jerks and one good person, at the end of the day, I helped a good person, and that makes my whole day, regardless of anything else. That’s how you find the good people in the world, and build your social circle with people who care for you.

        You’re a gullible fool.

        “Vulnerability” only teaches people they can succeed in killing you, and that you won’t defend yourself properly from those who try. This isn’t about “some asshole got a leg up because of my effort” or “felt bigger by making me feel smaller” - this is about motherfuckers who murder people for fun.

        Get your head out of your as an see real life. Life is a war zone where very social group is hunting every other social group - and everyone isolated from a social group. The goals of those groups is to kill - nothing less. There are no “good people” to help - they ALL are on the hunt, and I will not accept your lies suggesting otherwise. I will not be changed by your attempt to dominate and subjugate my mind.

        Sorry, bud - kind people don’t say that.

        Yes they do - after they wake up and realize they were taken in for fools, haven been conned by society into enabling abusers.

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          Clearly you’ve given up hope, and need to reject the idea of other people people being happy, and surrounded by love in order to not feel like you made a mistake in doing so. Nobody’s trying to kill me, nor are they trying to kill you - people are pretty good at that, as you pointed out; when they actually want to, they don’t try to, they just do. I’ve gotten death threats before, and lo and behold they were just threats. Had anyone gotten a gun and actually came after me with it, I’d be dead. You would be too, if they were serious about their supposed effort to kill you.

          I’m in a loving marriage, with friends and what’s left of my family after I cut out the bad parts. They all support me and want me to be happy. We hang out and help one another, and it’s been years since I even met someone who I remember treating me poorly, because once you have that support network you don’t even care about those kinds of people. You end up just seeing them for what they are instead - just normal people who never learned to interact with others; pity them. You’ve still got a good chance to find your friend group. Don’t throw that chance away by just assuming such lives don’t exist - they absolutely do.

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            Clearly you’ve given up hope

            This is correct, but:

            need to reject the idea of other people people being happy, and surrounded by love in order to not feel like you made a mistake in doing so.

            People derive their happiness from torturing “other” people. That’s why they tortured me. That’s why my own parents tied me to a chair and beat me half to death with whatever didn’t leave bruise. That’s why my childhood peers beat me with whatever they could find and call me every name in the book. and that’s why no one ever did anything else. My therapists said the lack of alternate behavior - treatmentother than abuse - was the most damaging part of my trauma.

            Nobody’s trying to kill me

            No shit - you’re in a social group.

            nor are they trying to kill you

            They why was I shot three months ago, by a man who yelled in front of witnesses that he was going to kill me?

            Had anyone gotten a gun and actually came after me with it, I’d be dead. You would be too, if they were serious about their supposed effort to kill you.

            You grossly overestimate the competence of humankind. You also forget that maintaining social acceptance overrides even their desire to kill. They have to justify killing me to their peers before they can do it - otherwise they come off as someone who will kill anyone, a homicidal maniac. They have to build a casus belli before they murder me - that’s where I set them against their peers.

            Their real desire is to dominate - killing is the consolation prize. I refuse to be someone else’s slave, so they’re driven to kill me to prevent the narcissistic collapse - to live with themselves after “failing” to enslave me.

            I’m in a loving marriage, with friends and what’s left of my family

            Bragging, really? You self-centered twat.

            once you have that support network you don’t even care about those kinds of people.

            The problem is that I can’t get that support network because you motherfuckers define your identities by who you bar from those networks. You bastards would rather kill an entire crowd than “fail” by letting me be tolerated by a group. You support your narcissistic egos by dominating other people and lying about them to others, making sure they’re permanently socially isolated.

            You’ve still got a good chance to find your friend group.

            No I don’t - I’m at the end of my life, and have absolutely no use for a friend group now.

            Don’t throw that chance away by just assuming such lives don’t exist - they absolutely do

            Prove it. Drag their bodies before me. I’m sick and tired of liars like you asserting this bullshit without proof, simply because your friends drive you to delusion and protect you from reality.

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              Alright, you’ve got people trying to kill you that’s terrible. You’ve definitely got it worse than I ever did, and you’re justified in thinking everyone’s out to get you. So start fresh. My mom never tried to kill me, but she did try to forcibly denounce my citizenship so I’d be utterly reliant upon her, so I moved across the country and lived for a few years in a closet of a bedroom owned by some lady I found on craigslist.

              It sucked, and I had pretty much no money, but in about 2 years I managed to get back on my feet. I was even able to move back to my hometown, since I didn’t want to let my mom force me to live away from where I wanted to be. I made a new social group, and let some people from the previous group back in once I assessed whether they had my best interests in mind. I’m not saying starting fresh would be easy - it’s certainly the hardest thing I’ve ever done - but it sounds like you’ve got people actively hunting you down, so if they’re as incompetent at murder as you say they are, they should have an even harder time killing you with a thousand miles between you.

              I’m not telling you about my life to brag - I’m actively encouraging you to find those same joys yourself. That’s what it looks like when someone encourages you - they tell you about how good your life can be if you regain hope.

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                So start fresh.

                I moved across the country

                Not only is there no way to “start fresh”, MOVING IS WHAT MADE PEOPLE WANT TO KILL ME IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! Their murderous rage started when my parents moved from one place to some place where “I didn’t belong” and they’ve been trying to kill me ever since, because there is no place on this Earth I belong. Even if there was such a place, they’d simply destroy it to deprive me of it and dominate me.

                they should have an even harder time killing you with a thousand miles between you.

                They are experts at chasing me down - they are far more skilled at chasing and tracking than killing. Remember, their priority is DOMINATION - they have an entire stable of people they have enslaved, whether they are actually chained up, or kept in line through extortion. The most important thing in their lives is to keep control of those people - and the second most is to regain control once they lose one.

                I’m actively encouraging you to find those same joys yourself.

                And I refuse to chase down happiness, because that will only make me an addict like my abusers. They abuse because abuse is the only thing that makes them happy, now that they’re strung out on it.

                That’s what it looks like when someone encourages you - they tell you about how good your life can be if you regain hope.

                No, that’s what lying looks like. I will never take anything anyone tells me at face value again.

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                  You is batshit crazy. I don’t want to dominate you but I definitely pity you. I wish I could travel back in time and just set up traps to trip and pants everyone who was ever unkind to you. I can’t do that though, but I hope you get it all figured out one day.

                  You need to allow positive influences into your life. Hell, some decent negative influences might serve you better than the version of reality you’ve made for yourself here.

                  And if everyone is so evil and hellbent on dominating you, why do feel the need to interact with them on social media? It’s like you can’t commit to the isolation, which is a good thing because maybe at some point something positive will come your way.

                  I don’t know man. I’m not dealing with the madness that you are so I know there’s probably nothing I can say to help you.

                  I hope you can manage to help yourself some day though. Your abusers poisoned your brain, and then you’ve continued to apply that poison up to the place you’re in now.

                  I hope you get better. I really do.

                  Take care fellow human.

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                    You is batshit crazy.

                    Insults. Nice start.

                    I don’t want to dominate you

                    Bullshit.

                    I definitely pity you

                    More bullshit. What makes you think I’m so gullible? What do I have to do to prove to you that I am skeptical beyond your ability to fool?

                    You need to allow positive influences into your life.

                    I’m not the one stopping them. You are.

                    The most important faculty I value in others is the inability to be manipulated by another human being. The entire point of what I do is to weed out people who can be manipulated. I am only interested in people who defy my resistance and treat me well regardless of my initial resistance. If you can’t manage that, then you won’t be able to resist becoming a manipulator’s puppet - which is the only way such an abuser can succeed in killing me. If you cannot resist manipulation, I don’t think you’re worth the oxygen you breathe - you’re just an extension of the person manipulating you.

                    And if everyone is so evil and hellbent on dominating you, why do feel the need to interact with them on social media?

                    I have to stop them on every front - including debunking the lies they tell others to recruit them to join their “war” against me.

                    It’s like you can’t commit to the isolation

                    I don’t want to be isolated - you motherfuckers ostracize me to dominate me.

                    there’s probably nothing I can say to help you.

                    No shit - you have to do things, not say things. Of course you’ll fucking fail if you simply say things. But now it’s too late to do things, too.

                    Had you people done things during my childhood to help, you would have succeeded. But you didn’t want to actually succeed - you failed intentionally, because you wanted me broken, but also wanted the credit for trying to help. It’s all disingenuous, performative bullshit.

                    you’ve continued to apply that poison up to the place you’re in now.

                    Fuck you, narcissist. This is pure DARVO - Deny accuse, reverse victim and offender. Quit your bullshit gaslighting.

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                  Sorry, bud. I’ve told you all I can. At this point, your life is in your hands. Not the hands of those who want to hurt you, not the hands of those who want to help you, but can’t because of your rejection of the world. Just yours. I hope you make the right choice in the end. You deserve to be loved - and you will be, if you let it in. Please at least remember that much.

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                    your life is in your hands.

                    As if assholes like you would ever let that be the case. You wouldn’t be able to live with yourself if you failed that badly as to let me regain control.

                    your rejection of the world

                    *I* didn’t reject the world - you assholes rejected me. And this gaslighting bullshit shows how much of a narcissist you are - it’s pure DARVO - Deny, Accuse, Reverse Victim and Offender.

                    I spent my life bending over backwards, trying to convince you people to stop hating me, and the harder I fought, the harder you resisted. That’s not the behavior of a species who ever had any intention of acknowledged my equality - that is the behavior of a species that defines it identity by who they dominate.

                    I hope you make the right choice in the end.

                    I have made the right choice - I have chosen to be moral, instead of chasing the happiness dragon and abusing innocent people - which is the choice you all made.

                    if you let it in

                    How stupid do you think I am?

                    There is only one thing to be “let in” - the people who want to enslave me. My entire life is dedicated to crippling them, making sure they enslave no one. And I will not rest until every narcissist is quadriplegic or worse.

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              Like… call the police idfk. This violence and abuse is foreign to me, its not most people’s experiences and you’re in a deeply dangerous situation. You get away from those people, and actually the majority of people are great.

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                call the police

                These are the fucking police. What makes you think the police aren’t just as bigoted as everyone else? Have you seen police in the U.S.?

                You get away from those people, and actually the majority of people are great.

                1. there is no “away”

                2. the propaganda that “the majority of people are great” is exactly the lie I’m trying to combat.

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      And what magical fucking force forces people to “chill”?

      They don’t. Because that magic doesn’t fucking exist.

      I don’t say this often, but visit a Buddhist monastery.

      …and figure out where all that anger is coming from.

      and there is an entire organization of psychologists and sociologists who reject the pro-human narrative and know exactly how evil people really are

      As a target is not set up to miss it so the nature of evil does not exist in the world.

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        figure out where all that anger is coming from.

        I know where the anger is coming from - its coming from being treated unjustly my entire life - and knowing that everyone is willing to do anything up to committing suicide to continue to treat me unjustly, because they can’t live with themselves if they don’t. They think failure to be cruel to me proves that they are “weak” and unworthy of life.

        As a target is not set up to miss it so the nature of evil does not exist in the world.

        Is English not your first language? Because that’s not written correctly. The first clause does not relate to the second.

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          its coming from being treated unjustly my entire life

          That’s not something in your control. What is in your control is whether you add to it, including by spreading bad vibes by being chronically miserable. Don’t be a slave to your past.

          They think failure to be cruel to me proves that they are “weak” and unworthy of life.

          If everyone, ever, looks like a narcissist to you then one of two things are true: a) You’re one yourself and are literally begging for that behaviour to be kept in check, or, b) you’re jaded beyond measure. Is there not a single person that doesn’t give you the creeps? You included, btw.

          Is English not your first language? Because that’s not written correctly. The first clause does not relate to the second.

          It isn’t, but yes it is written correctly. But the Epictetus translation I paraphrased it from is better, I agree:

          As a mark is not set up for the sake of missing the aim, so neither does the nature of evil exist in the world.

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            spreading bad vibes by being chronically miserable

            What the fuck is this bullshit? And what makes you think you don’t deserve the punishment?

            Don’t be a slave to your past.

            I’m not. I’m extrapolating the future from what I correctly learned from the past, and preparing for it.

            If everyone, ever, looks like a narcissist to you then one of two things are true: a) You’re one yourself and are literally begging for that behaviour to be kept in check, or, b) you’re jaded beyond measure.

            Oh, definitely B. But you’ll accuse me of being A, because you’re the narcissist. And I ABSOLUTELY do not anyone to “keep my behavior in check” - the entire point of this is to liberate my self from everyone else domination and desire to enslave me. I am willing to hacksaw people’s hands off at the wrist to keep them off of me.

            Is there not a single person that doesn’t give you the creeps? You included, btw.

            “Creeps?” What planet are you on? People are beating me up - that’s not “the creeps”, that’s justified fear.

            As a mark is not set up for the sake of missing the aim, so neither does the nature of evil exist in the world.

            Again, that doesn’t make any sense. “Evil” has nothing to do with “missing a mark”; evil is defined as the will and desire to dominate others. That nature does exist; psychology relegates it to Cluster B of the set on personality disorders.

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              What the fuck is this bullshit? And what makes you think you don’t deserve the punishment?

              You don’t deserve the reaction you’re trying to coax out of me. You’re trying to elicit it so that you can be reinforced in your beliefs, so that you can continue to say “see, it’s true, everybody hates me, everyone is an enemy”. But no amount of flailing will make me hate you. Best I can do is tickle you into submission, sorry.

              And, yes, my intent here is to dominate and my methods are manipulative. What’s the motive, though?

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                You don’t deserve the reaction you’re trying to coax out of me. You’re trying to elicit it so that you can be reinforced in your beliefs, so that you can continue to say “see, it’s true, everybody hates me, everyone is an enemy”.

                No, I’m not. I’m trying to teach you about your own nature, so you can correct it.

                What’s the motive, though?

                The same motive all narcissists have - you’re trying to “prove” your “better” than I am to hide from your own insecurity. You’re trying to hide some secret shame from others - and you’re willing do anything, including kill, to do so.

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                  You do not know anyone’s nature but your own. You cannot assume anyone’s behavior except your own. By definition, you are entirely wrong, because your entire conception is based upon assumptions about people you’ve never met and likely never will. You are definitively the narcissist in this thread, making everything about you. You need to pull the tapeworm out of your ass.

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                    Bullshit. Humanity’s common nature is a fact of psychology.

                    And I don’t need to meet every “individual” of a species every member of which compulsively tries to destroy their - and everyone else’s - individuality. You bastards hate individuality - that’s why you compulsively abuse everyone who’s different than you. That’s what bigotry is - and everyone’s a bigot.

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                  No, I’m not. I’m trying to teach you about your own nature, so you can correct it.

                  I know my nature thank you very much. And what do you mean with “correction”? Do you want me to be an asshole? You also don’t need to worry about me: I’m peaceful, not harmless. In fact, you can’t really be peaceful if you’re harmless, in that we agree I think.

                  The same motive all narcissists have - you’re trying to “prove” your “better” than I am to hide from your own insecurity. You’re trying to hide some secret shame from others - and you’re willing do anything, including kill, to do so.

                  That’s not a narcissistic motive. Narcissists feel shame when they, inadvertently, do something nice same as others feel shame when they inadvertently hurt. Their moral instincts are flipped and their function in society is to keep the rest on our toes. They’re the empty space directly around the mark so the mark is easier to see. Their purpose in life is to be a warning example. In that way they serve good.

                  Playing over fears is a thing every human is prone to, no matter the neurological makeup. It’s either a function of pride, to which the antidote is humility, or urgency/stress, to which the antidote is taking your time, avoiding snap judgements… or it’s foolhardiness. Courage, OTOH, is not playing over but actually overcoming fear, usually out of wisdom, the queen of the virtues, able to bring opposing instincts into mutually agreeable concord. That’s adaptation without the “mal-” in front.

                  And I don’t care about whatever shame the assholes put into you. Keep it to yourself, you deserve kindness regardless. The question is whether you’re willing to look beyond it and become receptive to kindness, or whether you carry it around as a shield because giving it up would invoke the ire of people you are, as I gather, no longer under the direct thumb of.

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                    I know my nature thank you very much.

                    No you don’t. You actively try to be ignorant of it, because you don’t want to know the horrible truth.

                    And what do you mean with “correction”? Do you want me to be an asshole?

                    The correct is stopping you from being an asshole.

                    You also don’t need to worry about me: I’m peaceful, not harmless.

                    I’m not your gullible mark. I’ll worry about you as *I* see fit - not as you dictate.

                    In fact, you can’t really be peaceful if you’re harmless, in that we agree I think.

                    No we don’t - I can’t even make sense of this line.

                    That’s not a narcissistic motive. Narcissists feel shame when they, inadvertently, do something nice same as others feel shame when they inadvertently hurt. Their moral instincts are flipped and their function in society is to keep the rest on our toes. They’re the empty space directly around the mark so the mark is easier to see. Their purpose in life is to be a warning example. In that way they serve good.

                    This is directly contrary to even the wikipedia entry, much less the therapists I see. You’re just full of shit.

                    And I don’t care about whatever shame the assholes put into you. Keep it to yourself, you deserve kindness regardless. The question is whether you’re willing to look beyond it and become receptive to kindness, or whether you carry it around as a shield because giving it up would invoke the ire of people you are, as I gather, no longer under the direct thumb of.

                    I have nothing to be ashamed of. I never stopped being receptive to genuine kindness - I stopped being receptive to obvious, bald-faced lies and other bad faith behavior. I stopped being receptive to the idea that people can be genuine instead of being continuous, compulsive liars. I stopped being a sucker, and started being a skeptic - and I never took anything anyone said at face value again.

                    Human beings are incapable of being genuine to those they do not consider their equal. I have been branded infinitely beneath all others, a brand enforced by society itself. No one will ever interact with me in good faith - and nothing anyone can say will change my mind.

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          I dont have a social circle, I talk to random people online when I feel like I wanna be social. I was just at the hardware store, looking like queer me, and the cashier was clearly a strong middle-aged white guy. He might politically want me dead. But he was nice enough. I didnt get the fear response activation vibe that he could murder me or wanted to. My name is Franzia, and it is a female name, I’m not a guy.

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            I was just at the hardware store, looking like queer me, and the cashier was clearly a strong middle-aged white guy. He might politically want me dead. But he was nice enough.

            No shit - he didn’t want to lose his job.

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          You mean like the majority of people?

          Not having someone you can rely on is the exception, not the rule.

          It is a great tool to perpetuate healthy human offspring.

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            The point is that you’re denying me that social circle by lying to other people about me - at minimum misleading them about me, for your own narcissistic ends.

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              No one owes you a social circle, so no one can deny it to you. Social connections are forged, not given. How can people you’ve never met lie about you? They can’t, by definition. There is absolutely no possibility that you’ve met every person even within your community, much less the world, in order to be able to make that assertion. It sounds like, you’re abusive, and blame it on your prior trauma, and when people don’t accept being abused by you, you claim that they’re liars or narcissists. Nearly everyone has had trauma in their life, many people have had trauma worse than can be imagined without experiencing it, and yet, they don’t become violently angry anti-social assholes.

              Your response to trauma is a choice, and you have made a choice that prevents ever healing and creates further trauma.

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                No one owes you a social circle, so no one can deny it to you.

                That does not give you the right to deny it in bad faith. If I do everything to earn that social circle, and I am still denied it, then you are acting in bad faith and must be punished - or you will permanently act in bad faith, and encourage others to do the same, virally.

                Social connections are forged, not given.

                The hell they aren’t. Every person I was raised with had their connections from birth. They were literally a birthright.

                And I busted my ass to forge those connections, and you all fucking mocked me for it.

                How can people you’ve never met lie about you? They can’t, by definition.

                Are you mentally disabled or something?

                A manipulator tells them false things about you to others, and then those others repeat it as gossip. I mean, the fucking Bible talks about this.

                There is absolutely no possibility that you’ve met every person even within your community, much less the world, in order to be able to make that assertion.

                I don’t need to. People go out of their way to be like everyone in their social groups to avoid being rejected; therefore everyone in a social group is similar enough to represent the whole group. All remaining difference are meaningless.

                It sounds like, you’re abusive, and blame it on your prior trauma, and when people don’t accept being abused by you, you claim that they’re liars or narcissists. Nearly everyone has had trauma in their life, many people have had trauma worse than can be imagined without experiencing it

                The difference is that I didn’t cause your trauma, but you at least want to cause mine. You have a compulsive need to dominate me to cover for your own insecurities. I don’t cover my insecurities - I blast them at maximum volume in order to make sure you can’t avoid the consequence for causing my insecure condition.

                and yet, they don’t become violently angry anti-social assholes.

                I’m not anti-social - you are the assholes rejecting me.

                Your response to trauma is a choice, and you have made a choice that prevents ever healing and creates further trauma.

                Wrong. I have made the only choice that lets me survive. You idea of “healing” is actually my complete submission to you, which I will never give; that is the only “healing” you want. I don’t want your “healing”; you can go fuck yourself.

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                  There is no such thing as “earning” a social connection. You don’t deserve them, you cannot earn them or buy them or trade them. Again, you forge them. They are a product of mutual vulnerability and compatibility.

                  I made my friends from those who others rejected, and it made all of us stronger for it. I specifically seek out those in need and offer myself to them, and those who do not fit in other social circles. None of my friends are like me, we are all very different, with very different lifestyles and goals, and we do not even agree on basic things, yet because we have forged bonds together, no amount of difference can break us apart.

                  You assert many intentions to me, which is your right, however, it’s no surprise why you lack bonds when you treat people such and view the world through a warped, transactional point of view. There’s no brownie points in the real world, behaving like a human does not entitle you to friends. It is the bare minimum standard of mutual humanity. You must go farther than that.

                  Why do you assume the entire world is telling lies about you? Why do you care what other people say about you? Where are you that you genuinely think most people want to murder and dominate you, and what attempts have you made to relocate to somewhere more amenable to you? Do you find beauty in nature? Do you frequently engage with nature? How many social media accounts do you have? When was the last time you went to a social event by yourself where you know absolutely no one? How much time per day do you spend on self improvement, be it mental or physical? What are your goals for the immediate future? And further out?

                  Cheers, my angry friend.

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                    There is no such thing as “earning” a social connection. You don’t deserve them, you cannot earn them or buy them or trade them. Again, you forge them. They are a product of mutual vulnerability and compatibility.

                    This is absolute bullshit.

                    1. “Forge” has no clear definition here; this is just a weasel word used to justify arbitrary rejection in bad faith.
                    2. There is no such thing as “mutual vulnerability” - by definition, if one person is “vulnerable” the other person is psychologically compelled to attack them. Humans are as predator species, jackass.
                    3. I have no “mutual compatibility” with any human being, and cannot become compatible without throwing away my very soul.

                    a warped, transactional point of view.

                    Those are your transactions - “transactional” is your invention. I only adopted in the last couple of months because it’s the only thing you crazed, irrational motherfuckers understand. Anything you assholes do is less rational, less functional.

                    You must go farther than that.

                    I’ve gone much farther than that, only to be mocked for being gullible enough to believe that anyone would treat me well in return. Your insistence that I “must go farther than that” is simply your attempt to trick me into falling for that con again. What do I have to do to convince you assholes I’ll never be that gullible again?

                    Why do you assume the entire world is telling lies about you?

                    Why do you believe the massive list of names people called me throughout school weren’t lies? Because the only reason one would ask that question is if you believe that all of those names - including those that directly contradict each other - are true.

                    Why do you believe people wouldn’t simply adopt very successful strategies? People calling me names succeeded in making me modify my behavior; It would be zero-intelligence 8stupid* for anyone to witness that success and say to themselves, “I’m going to throw away that perfectly successful strategy that achieves my aims and instead do something completely unproven”.

                    Once on e bully did something to me in school, the entire school did it, almost immediately. It’s as if they didn’t have free wills - and I have yet to find any evidence that they gained that free will. I have seen a scientific paper recently that explains how mental laziness makes people gullible and prone to brainwashing.

                    Why do you care what other people say about you?

                    Because what people think drives what they do, and what people say spreads virally until no one has an original thought in their heads. It’s what they do that matters - and what they do is act in bad faith, destroy everything I own, and go out of their way to become and obstacle between me and everything need to survive.

                    Where are you that you genuinely think most people want to murder and dominate you

                    Earth.

                    what attempts have you made to relocate to somewhere more amenable to you?

                    Relocation is what started the abuse. Relocation made me an “invader”, a person who “didn’t belong here” and people were willing to kill to get rid of.

                    Moving again simply means there are two gangs of people trying to kill me.

                    Do you find beauty in nature? Do you frequently engage with nature?

                    No, and no. I do not conceptualize “beauty”.

                    How many social media accounts do you have?

                    Two. I refuse to go on either Facebook or whatever Elon calls his garbage fire now.

                    When was the last time you went to a social event by yourself where you know absolutely no one?

                    I never knew anyone. I cannot remember names. I’ve never been to a social event unless you count school itself.

                    How much time per day do you spend on self improvement, be it mental or physical?

                    8+ hours - more on weekends. The moment I fail to improve myself is the moment the rest of the world catches up - and I die.

                    What are your goals for the immediate future?

                    Survive.

                    And further out?

                    Survive.

                    Cheers, my angry friend.

                    Don’t ever falsely accuse me of being your friend ever again.

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                It sounds like, you’re abusive, and blame it on your prior trauma, and when people don’t accept being abused by you, you claim that they’re liars or narcissists.

                I’ve had a friend like that. It was hard cutting her off, but in the end our whole social circle agreed that was the right thing to do after enduring so much of her abuse over the years. She was crazy manipulative and always the victim, just like this dude.

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      I mean this in the nicest possible way, but I think you need to talk to someone and try and gain a new perspective. People aren’t inherently mean, and generally aren’t thinking about much other than themselves. People do “chill” as they get older and realize a lot of things really don’t matter in the long run.

      Go find a team sport or a hobby with other like-minded people and focus on building a community of friendship and support. Your life is too short to not spend it being happy.

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        No, I don’t. My perspective is the correct one, and your bullshit is simply propaganda you’re gullible enough to be fed.

        I will not believe anything else - especially if a lying human being sells it.

        Finally, there ARE NO LIKE MINDED PEOPLE TO ME!!! The entire fucking problem is that you idiots sacrificed your minds for your happiness drug. I don’t want your “happiness” - I want moral integrity, and you want to kill me because that’s what I chose.

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          I will not believe anything else - especially if a lying human being sells it.

          The way that everyone else seems to be getting along normally in their lives, maybe even having fun reading through this thread, while you’re getting angry and “shouting” reminded me of a line from The Count of Monte Cristo, where the count is trying to persuade a similarly unhappy person of the existence of a god.

          ‘No,’ said Caderousse. ‘No, I do not repent. There is no God, there is no Providence. There is only chance.’

          ‘There is both Providence and God,’ said Monte Cristo. ‘The proof is that you are lying there, desperate, denying God, and I am standing before you, rich, happy, healthy and safe, clasping my hands before the God in whom you try not to believe and in whom, even so, you do believe in the depths of your heart.’

          Which is not to say that it’s a good argument; it’s actually pretty bad.
          “Look at how fortunate I am to believe in my thing, and how unfortunate you are to believe in yours” when their beliefs are totally incidental.
          But rereading it made me think about how little it matters about whose perspective is “correct” about something like that. To put it simply, there are plenty of “good people” in the world and there’s also plenty of “bad people”. Whether or not you choose to see good or bad is (in large part) up to you. Neither way is “right” or “wrong”.

          I think you would be happier if you tried to look for good instead of bad, but as you’ve stated, that’s not a goal of yours. I don’t think that you really have any more “moral integrity” than the other side though. While I’m not asking you to abandon your point of view, I think you should realize that there is a reason why your viewpoint is not very popular; it seems that you’ve had negative experiences that have caused you to become cynical about human nature but here’s a rough analysis of the numbers: the fact that most people are not that cynical is evidence that most people don’t have it that bad. People aren’t wrong to believe in good human nature when that’s what their experiences reflect. They’re coming to conclusions in the same way you are, just the other way around.

          If your experiences have been so negative, that’s an alright thing to base your views on. But I hope that you find more positive experiences in the future that might change your mind. You probably won’t find it on Lemmy.

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          I sincerely wish I understood how someone can get to your point. I wish I could see this as some elaborate troll, but I can’t help but see this as something so much darker. I won’t recommend anything to you, as it’s pretty clear any effort to help is seen as an insult, at best. Just know that there are genuinely people who see reactions like this and wish they could help.

          Just, sincerely, best of luck to you.

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      What a fucking pant load. You’re so full of shit, it stinks

      Bullshit. The majority of people want to dominate everyone not in their immediate social circle. Go look up social dominance theory - it will tell you everything you need to know about how people really behave.

      I’m basing this on my life’s experience, and of those around me. That might not match your’s but what I say is true to me.

      I’m not going to say you’re wrong. As long as inequalities exist between people, there will always be in-groups and out-groups of people. Humanity is tribal, and likely always will be.

      But most people don’t spend their waking moments trying to enforce these tribalisms. Arseholes definitely do, but that’s not the majority of people.

      And what magical fucking force forces people to “chill”?

      Biology.

      The human brain doesn’t come pre-built. There are many parts that develop at different rates, with the pre-cortex (the “rational” part of your brain) still developing even into your mid-20s.

      During your adolescence this process is nowhere near complete, thus adolescents are generally severely lacking in the long-term judgement and planning department. They are more likely to be impulsive, to jump on the bandwagon of peer pressure without thinking through the consequences.

      As they get older, most people become generally better at thinking things through. Less likely to act on impulse, and more likely to listen to others. They learn about viewpoints way outside their own and start to become less self-absorbed. At least that’s my experience of growing around my peers.

      They don’t. Because that magic doesn’t fucking exist. Only the trauma of punishment makes people stop abusing others. Without the threat of permanent injury on themselves, people will always try to permanently injure others as a means to dominate and control - at least for the sake of their social groups. That desperate need to dominate and control is what makes them human.

      You are spreading self-aggrandizing lies; spreading an infection that will only cause more people to get more “uppity” and beat more innocent people to death. Stop lying about people and apologizing for their bloodlust. People are murderers, hunters for the only “game” still left - forcibly isolated human beings.

      I wasted my entire life being kind to people, only to mock me for being so stupid, so gullible enough to fall for the con that they would be nice back. They beat me like they were mining for ore, driving blow after blow into my skull until it was permanently disfigured, and then they broke every bone in my limbs until they didn’t work anymore.

      Don’t give me this horseshit about how people “chill out” - I did not get almost murdered over fifteen years by people who would simply magically stop being murderous because some timer ran out. No, those motherfuckers murdered as if it was a fucking religious mandate and they are the same type of assholes who tried to take over the U.S. on January 6th.

      No one is ever going to acknowledge my humanity, no matter how kind I am, or what I do. I will always be seen as a “less than” because the ENTIRE human race are malignant narcissists - and there is an entire organization of psychologists and sociologists who reject the pro-human narrative and know exactly how evil people really are. Quit apologizing for rapists and murderers.

      Jesus christ you went off the deep end quick, I am not responding to all of that…

      I don’t know what kind of life you’ve experienced, but you’ve got some deep-seated traumas up in that head of yours that you need to figure out.

      Not only that, but you’ve seemingly driven yourself into an almost schizophrenic delusion that everybody is after you, looking for a chance to tear you down in whatever way they can. That’s just not the case.

      If your tendency is to explode on anyone who disagrees about your worldview, to compare them to murderers, then I’m afraid you might just be the problem in your lack of a social life - I’ll leave you with this:

      “If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole” - Raylan Givens, Justified

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        you’ve seemingly driven yourself into an almost schizophrenic delusion that everybody is after you

        It’s not almost, they sound exactly like my old classmate who unfortunately did spiral down the path of paranoid schizophrenia. Nobody here is going to change their mind, despite your best intentions. Even professionals don’t have much better luck.

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        But most people don’t spend their waking moments trying to enforce these tribalisms.

        That doesn’t matter. As long as they are enforced, “how often” doesn’t factor in. You only have to blow out an “invader” 's brain once.

        As they get older, most people become generally better at thinking things through. Less likely to act on impulse, and more likely to listen to others. They learn about viewpoints way outside their own and start to become less self-absorbed. At least that’s my experience of growing around my peers.

        Absolute horseshit. This stopped occurring in the early 20th century - if not earlier than that.

        Not only that, but you’ve seemingly driven yourself into an almost schizophrenic delusion that everybody is after you, looking for a chance to tear you down in whatever way they can. That’s just not the case.

        Then explain to me why exactly zero people supported me during my childhood. Not my parents not my peers, not school faculty, NO ONE.

        If you can’t explain that with statistical logic, without resorting to sucking off the human species, you’re full of shit.

        If your tendency is to explode on anyone who disagrees about your worldview, to compare them to murderers, then I’m afraid you might just be the problem in your lack of a social life

        I’m not trying to have a social life anymore - you assholes proved that you’d sacrifice your lives to prevent that in my junior high.

        I’m trying to secure my survival against a species that refuses to control itself. A species of rabid dogs that put on airs. You don’t just “disagree about my worldview” - you’re trying to annihilate my very identity so you can enslave me with your bullshit ideas.

        I WILL NOT INTERNALIZE YOUR BULLSHIT, NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU FIGHT ME!!!

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          I might be late to the discussion, but it seems that your life has been hard and full of abuse. A lot of people here answered your comments with compassion, but your replies were almost always aggressive. It’s ok to feel hatred towards your abusers, but the fact that you seem to immediately hate people that try to peacefully communicate with you is, objectively, very wrong. Even if all the abusers in the world died tomorrow, would you be happy?

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      I don’t necessarily agree with your aggressive tone but I do agree with a lot of what you’re saying, this from someone who was treated like complete shit as a young adult, shit enough to leave me with trauma and a really bad fear of people.

      I’ve seen what the worst side of people while being a soft kind and caring person. Anyone who believes what the other person said is pretty naive.

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        Unfortunately the aggressive tone is necessary to survive. If you give anyone an inch, they will interpret that lack of aggression as “weakness” and double-down on the assault, “going for the kill” in other words. The only way to keep the wolves at bay is to constantly lash out at their snout with something sharp; failure to do so and the pack lunges in.