• iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    My father and I became estranged about a decade before he passed, for reasons other than but similar to politics. Our world views just did not align and in ways that I could not ultimately forgive. We did not really ever reconcile before his passing and I don’t regret it to this day. I don’t believe in unconditional love and he did not earn mine, imho. I am estranged with most of my extended family for similar reasons. I’m not really willing to compromise certain morals.

    • CLOTHESPlN@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      This might sound bad but I wish I had a similar level of resolve. I tolerate far too much insanity from people in my family.

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        I’m cutting them out completely. I can’t stand people who sit back and do nothing or support fascism.

        This will be the first year in almost 20 years that I simply don’t visit the family for christmas, with the exception of the pandemic.

        From now on, if you’re a trump supporter or you “sat this one out”, I’m not wasting any effort on you, continue sitting this one out.

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      That’s fine. I have no contact with his entire side of the family except one cousin for that very reason, but my dad isn’t like them. I don’t think he understands that he votes R because his family has always voted R. His vote is really the only thing I dislike about him.