I’m so sorry, that sucks ): Also, thank you 💟

Sadly there aren’t that many options here that I can see

• Sit them down (literally or figuratively) and challenge their attitude towards paraphiles
• Keep hiding from them that you align with paraphiles
• Stop being their friend

This is very interesting!

Not sure whether to laugh or cry at this.

Can’t remember where I have and haven’t told this story yet, so here goes again I suppose.

The topic of attraction is quite vagued for me, because of trauma I have a mind-body disconnection. Which means my expression of sexual and aesthetic attraction is through fantasies and passive admiration only.

Anyway, I remember showing interest in sex quite young (10-ish). I started to write and draw porn, and I would also try to look for it online. That’s where the fantasizing started too. I’d come up with elaborate plots and abusive intimate scenarios. All of these metaphysical people would just pop in my head and they’d have whole lives. They were attracted to each other. These people were of all ages, kids, teens, adults, middle aged adults, elderly. They weren’t always fabricated, sometimes I’d use real people or fictional characters, but as my own ‘headcanons’.

Of course since I exist on this spinning orb and therefor parttake in the passage of time against my will, I started aging, and I started hearing hateful things towards pedophiles. I tried really hard to make my fantasies ‘age appropriate’, but I just realized that I was missing the inclusion of youth. Sexual thoughts of children arouse me, depictions of children are attractive to me, and the MAP community accepts me. So even though I don’t personally wanna date children, I am proud to call myself a MAP!

In case any outsiders are reading this, this is a community for stigmatized identities. That includes groups such as transID and paraphiles. We often flock together because no one else wants to accept us.

What is that?

Pass, sorry :P

as a cis-autistic, can confirm this is very autistic, lol

Thank you for sharing! I can understand how hard that is.

Welcome! :D

Could Abnormal Sexuality be apart of this? Abnormal and Deviant are kind of synonymous. The definition of Abnormal Sexuality in particular just really suits the exact things that I struggle with and I am attached to it. Alternatively, describing my sexuality as Deviant Sexuality, wouldn’t be untrue, but it wouldn’t be my first and/or main choice.

I need to get used to the word radeviant (still sounds a bit hmm… smushed to me), but I stand fully behind the message and goals!

Smash!!

Yea, as an Afamilial Aplatonic Aro it is very confusing to have people shouting ‘you’re supposed to feel these things’ when I literally just …don’t. Like, how can anyone dictate that I must feel something that I do not? They can’t possibly know that.

On that same note, beign autistic warrants similar responses. My emotional palette isn’t very expansive in the expected ways.

Yes, it’s used regularly too. I just thought it might be useful information to be aware of. It’s likely vague on purpose so it goes under the radar.

You are very strong 🫂.

Nah, It’s more meant as a warning when encountering such individuals. And it feels uncomfortable for me to keep using the phrase since discovering this.

I forgot how sexy Komodo Dragons are and they haven’t been mentioned specifically yet to my knowledge, so I wanted to add them to the chain.

Tbh, I estimate that most teleios were at least lowkey AAMs before they became adults.

For those who don’t know, teleiophilia is the medical term for attraction to adults.