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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • FWIW I’d go with seeing if you can get comfortable around him first, as suggested here. I definitely agree that you have to be ready before going on this trip, and hanging out with the dude to get to know him would be a big part of that. Because the truth is, the two of you likely have a some stuff in common and you’d probably get along really well under other circumstances.

    If you’re not mad at her anymore, maybe it might help to view him through the lens of someone who makes her happy; there’s also an opportunity here to make a good friend who you can trust to take good care of her and your son if something happens to you. If you do decide to meet up with him, you might even ask her about some things she thinks you might like about him so you have some conversation starters. And, it’s clear that there’s good will on the other side to try and mend fences for the sake of the kid, which speaks well to both his character and that of your ex-wife. They could have just said no and never mentioned it to you, or worse they could have been scheming to cut you out of your son’s life. A holiday invitation kinda says a lot about how they view you, when you think of it like that.

    However you decide bud I hope you manage okay through all this, and I do hope you can find a way to be friendly with him. It’s incredibly strong of you to even be considering putting yourself out there like that. As evidenced by most of the comments here, that would not be a common reaction. Good luck!


  • Splitting out storage and computer is definitely good first step to increase optimization and increase failure resiliency.

    Exactly why I’ve been considering doing it this way for my new setup! I had to leave my last one on the other side of the planet and have felt positively cramped with just a couple TB worth of internal drives, can’t wait to properly spread out again.


















  • Zen is a fork of Firefox, supports Firefox extensions, and retains the built-in access to the Mozilla extension/theme stores from vanilla Firefox. If you go to install an addon, it even gives a popup to “Add to Firefox”.

    It’s a good browser with only minor issues. I’m on Win10; automatic updates don’t always succeed, and it seems like it blocks some communication between the 1password desktop app and the browser extension because I have to sign into each separately. Otherwise, I prefer it to Firefox in pretty much every way.